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FEELINGS, teaching you children it's o.k to show them. |
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by Neeters  (September 2006) (rank 500+) |
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Lots of times I find that I lose my temper with Joycelyn. Quite often it's because I've had a bear of a day at work and she is pushing my buttons. I used to feel horribly guilty for getting cross with her but now I have started to use
it to teach her about feelings. The mother in me wants to be happy and cheery with her all the time but I know this isn't possible. SO I have started to use this as a teaching tool. If I get angry, I always apologize and explain to Joycelyn why I reacted the way I did. Always to be sure to emphasize that it has nothing to do with how much I love her. I am also not afraid to cry in front of her anymore. I want her to realize that sometimes I feel sad and I might cry and that it's o.k. Other times I show her that it's o.k. for her to get angry with me, and if she is angry then she shouldn't be afraid to tell me.
It seems to be working. When she gets frustrated and angry I will tell her to talk to me and tell me why she's mad. She's getting much better at it and I am finding that the tantrums are easier to handle when she adresses her feelings and why she has them.
