Solving Tantrums

What can i do when miss3 has tantrums because i won't let her do something? She always wants to play with the children next door when ive got dinner cooking, or when she's about to go to kindy. What can i do to stop these tantrums?

Every child is different. My son and daughter are night and day. With my son I found that, shockingly, you can negotiate with a young child. The cuase of his tantrums wasn't that he wasn't getting his way, but that at his age(5 at the time), he thought when I said no to something it meant he would never get it ever. For example, using the playing next door scenario, if he was already into the tantrum, I would sit down beside him and tell him as soon as he stops crying we'll fix this. Usually he'd stop pretty quick and we'd discuss the problem. I'd ask him why he was upset. If it was because he wasn't going to see his friend and explain that his friend's mommy was probably cooking too. If time will permit we could work out a deal to play after supper. If not a different date was picked and marked on the calender. I find that if children know what is going to happen they are less likely to make a fuss. The same works in public. My daughter used to fly off the handle whenerver I had a lot of errands to run. By half way through she was screaming in stores and making huge scenes. I find that when I leave on errands with the kids tell them everywhere you are going. Do it in the car because then you even get to spend time talking with you kids. Tell them where you are going and what you're doing there. Maybe even get them to help. Grocery shopping is so much easier if they get a list of 3 items each that they have to look for. It's gives the some responsiblity and makes it easier for you. I believe that the cause of most tantrums is frustration with not knowing what is going to happen to them. If they know that just because they can't got to Jimmy's house today, but can see on the calander that tomorrow at 4pm they can play then a "no" answer doesn't become "never again". Errand running isn't this big mysterious never ending waste of time. When they know how many stops and where, it's not so scary and neverending. I hope this helps. If you want anymore specifics or more details send me a message!