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Take the Total Attention Challenge-Winter Redux

jenlemen by jenlemen Young Parent(October 2006) (rank 20th)
Last fall a group of us here at Minti took The Total Attention Challenge.  You'll find details below as well as The Total Attention Challenge Group here.  This Winter let's try again to focus on our kids and get reconnected!  My personal TAC week starts Thursday,  January 18.  Details below!

Busy? Scattered? Always on the Go?  I'm noticing lately that even though I'm with my kids all day, I'm not always with them.  I'm preoccupied, half-listening, doing a hundred things at once.  When my kids catch on that my attention has been diverted, all kinds of craziness is unleashed on our household.  Big messes pile up and simple exchanges become occasions for mayhem.  My voice raises a couple of notches and out come the threats of the end of the world as we know it.   This isn't how I want to be with my kids, and God knows this isn't the way my kids want to be with me.  So for seven consecutive days, I'm taking the Total Attention Challenge.  Here's how it works:
  • Pick three times a day you intend to give your kids your total, undivided attention.  No one's going for sainthood here, so let's just pick three 10-20 minute increments where you are going to be all there, one hundred percent.  That's just 30-60 minutes a day.
  • During your designated times, let your child take the lead.  Read the stories they pick, play the games they initiate, talk about the subjects that interest them the most.   Resist the urge to redirect the activity or take charge.  The point is to connect with your child in whatever way is most meaningful to them.
  • Leave a comment on this article, saying you're in with a short list of your Total Attention Time Zones--the times you will set aside to connect with your child (or children!) everyday.
  • Blog on your Minti Blog about your experience with the Total Attention Challenge.  Be brutally honest about how easy (or hard!) it is to give your kids your total attention three times a day. 
Starting time is breakfast--Friday, October 6th, 2006--whenever the sun rises in your part of the world.  I'm a newbie to Minti, so who knows if this is a permissable way to use the advice article or if anyone will join me, but let's give it a try!  I need to make a concerted effort to pay attention to my kids, and I'd love to do it with my Minti-sistahs.  Pass this article around and let's see how many people we can get onboard.

Feel free to say you're in this winter in the comments below!
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tracey
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | tracey
Awesome.
OK, I will say that I won't set myself up for failure so I am going to play but I'll be taking a baby steps. I am also wanting to get involved in the Total Attention to Mommy Challenge too. I have been expecting way too much of myself with very few breaks (only due to my own choice not to take them) so I'm working on that too. Thanks Jen!


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MelodyS
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | MelodyS
Total Attention Challenge Redux
I'm in, and plan start date for Monday, January 23 (hey, gotta psych up).  Actually, I homeschool and spend a lot of group and individual time with my sons.  And yes, that includes their choice of activities, but after reading your article I realize I am falling short lately.  Thanks for the boost.


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MagpieGirl
4.08 (Good) | October 2006 | MagpieGirl
a toughie but a goodie

ooooo! i might have to save this 'discipline' for lent! :-)



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jenlemen
3.62 (Good) | October 2006 | jenlemen
yay
so glad to be in such good company.  invite a friend to join you if you can, and if you need to start on your own timetable, no worries!  i'll form a forum for ongoing conversation on this topic!


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angelmum
4.40 (Good) | October 2006 | angelmum
I'm In
Oh dear it starts tomorrow, my house looks like a hurricane went through, but I am going to try to start tomorrow.


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elizabeth
4.70 (Excellent) | October 2006 | elizabeth
I'll join you.
On my mirror in my bedroom I have written  " no-one can hear me if I yell and shout. "   I also believe that just because we are at home with our kids doesn't mean that they are getting our attention. My son's behaviour improves tremendously when he gets undivided attention from me and in particular my husband. Thanks.


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rogerslili
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2006 | rogerslili
Woohoo!!
Love love love love love this idea!! I don't think I can stress that enough, lol! It is never too early nor too late to reconnect with our children. Never.


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dolphins30
4.40 (Good) | October 2006 | dolphins30
Sounds great
 I will take you up on this advice and see how it goes. I don't like to raise my voice to my child either. They don't deserve it. I totally agree with you and i think what youre doing is the best thing.


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