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Don't talk like a baby

Emsmom by Emsmom Walking(October 2006) (rank 500+)

I am a firm believer in this, so I want to share it...

My daughter started talking when she was about 13 months, shortly after that she could name landmarks on the way to family member's houses. By the time she was two she could hold a conversation with

most adults (they could understand her)  I have had multiple compliments on how well she speaks, and how logical she is! I am not bragging, but I really believe that this is a result of us never talking to her in baby talk! Don't get me wrong, we still treat her like a child, but we have always taght her how to say things properly!! I think it also has to do with adult exposure! Unfortunetaly my daughter doesn't have alot of other children in her life, so they are substituted by our friends! Who also speak to her normally! I also made sure that she was independant, because I had a babysitting experience with a child who's mother always did everything for him, this resulted in a 3 1/2 year old that could barely talk and never pulled his eyes away from the tv! I found it frustrating, because I knew there was nothing wrong with him, he was just lazy as a result of being waited on!! Trust me it's so wonderful having a 3 year old who can tell me anything she has to say ,go to the washroom herself, get dressed(when I let her lol) etc!

So the point is, your kids only learn what you teach them, so teach wisely!!!

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LaRenae
November 2006 | LaRenae
Talk the talk
I so very much agree with this advice. When my boy was about six months old my husband said "Do you want your baba? " Meaning bottle ... I was like, we say "bottle" ... My son's exposure to people is also limited to mostly myself, then daddy and mostly other adults .... Now I do talk the talk .... meaning I mimic the "words" my boy says ... like "ya ya ya" .... a definite and purposeful  "aaaah" ... etc. To show him I am responding verbally to his "speech" and reinforcing the art, the give and take of conversation ....


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candie81
October 2006 | candie81
baby talk

We never spoke in baby talk neither, although my first daughter was alot older when she started to talk, compared to my second daughter who we could have conversations with at 2 years of age also. We just assumed that it was because she had an older sister who would talk to her and she just picked it up!



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ckelly
October 2006 | ckelly
Baby Talk

My mother always believed in talking very precise and clearly, As a child she had a speach impedament and was determined that her children would not be treated the way she was (teased etc). Although i dont have, nor never had a speach impedament, I also believe in talking to my child the way I wish him to talk. At 12 months he is starting to pick up more and more words and although accoding to hime everything must be say four or five time (nana,nana, nana, nana) he is very clear and precise with his words.
On the other hand my husband would talk to him in baby talk, but this never seem to affect his talking (although i guess we wont really know untill he gets a bigger vocab). I dont see anything worng with a bit of baby talk as long as iot is balanced with suitable regualr words.



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michellei
October 2006 | michellei
Babytalk
No baby talk in our house either.


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Frontier
October 2006 | Frontier
We are a Template to our Children.
We are the most common element in their lives in the earlier years and what we do in front of them is what they learn.


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KileeGiles
4.50 (Excellent) | October 2006 | KileeGiles
Babytalk
Completely agree - we did the same thing with Mia and her speech amazes us every day.  She far exceeds the other kids her age at day care and even some of our friends with kids a year older don't speak as well.  It wasn't that I believed baby talk was wrong I just felt silly doing it so I never did.


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Izzy
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2006 | Izzy
babytalk

I agree with. My husband and I never did babytalk with our son. I talked to him with real words, which is actually beneficial for me, since I'm a stay at home mom. So on a daily basis, my son is the only conversation I get.

But also we have to keep in mind that children are different, like mcm said. We can talk big, clear words to our babies and still have a child that doesn't talk until 2 years old - and there's nothing wrong with that.

My 18 month old can string 2 words together, but his words aren't clear. I know of another 18 month old who says clear words that adults can understand but only still says 1 word at a time.



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rogerslili
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2006 | rogerslili
Total Agreement
I've never talked to my son using "babytalk", and I don't with anyone else's child, either. Children are only as good as what we teach to them, imo. Certainly, cooing and giggling and making faces with a baby are important, as it shows them, in their little language, that we want to interact with them! But as far as talking to them, using actual words, use terms that are at their level (aka, being a walking dictionary is kinda silly), but use an adult and "normal" pronunciation.


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mcm
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2006 | mcm
Talk
I think it also depends on the child.
My boy is by far my best communicator. My baby is slower (well he is only 11 months)
I think as parents we can gauge what our children understand and speak appropriately with them


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      Emsmom
4.54 (Excellent) | October 2006 | Emsmom
Talk

I agree!

I think, though, that it's a different situation all together. When a child has an older sibling, it seems as though they often are a little bit slower in their speech because they have a brother or sister who understands them best and speaks alot for them! On the other hand I think this is very good because now they have someone more at their "level" to communicate with! Usually this results in a child who communicates well.



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           mcm
October 2006 | mcm
Talk
I find it interesting actually because my girl was very quiet. She is now 6 and talks a lot! But has her quiet moments while my 3 yr old boy doesn't stop from the time he wakes up til he goes to bed. He is very sensitive so I don't know if that has anything to do with it. And also he is a perfectionist - yes! So he is very careful with his words and is quick to tell others they are wrong if they say things not to his liking! He also likes his word games which is good at his age I think.
My baby may be lazier in the sense that he has his older siblings, as you say, to speak for him. And I doubt he would get a word in any way, poor dude...


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dolphins30
4.00 (Good) | October 2006 | dolphins30
I did the same
I never talked to my child in baby talk. Always talked to her like i do to every one else, in an adult manner. She understands me well, and talks like an adult like your child, and i do exactly what you do, still treat her like a child, but talking to her like an adult. I have never said anything to her like choo choo train, it's just plain train, or horsey, it's just horse etc, so i totally know where youre coming from. Great advice too.


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Jessgore
3.50 (Good) | October 2006 | Jessgore
I actually liked the baby talk...
When Francis was a baby, well more of a baby, I'd always do the baby talk thing with him.. He loved it and laughed and smiled and even copied.. He is now 16 months old. He started talking last month and seems to be on a role...    I am told he was going to be slow at learning to talk because he has two languages to learn but he seems to be picking up the French really well and speaks clear as a bell...  (I am a poet and did not even know it...)


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      Jessgore
4.00 (Good) | October 2006 | Jessgore
I actually liked the baby talk...

Ok I understand better what you mean now.... Sorry I think I was getting it wrong...    I was thinking along the lines of goo go ahhh ahh you know making all the baby sounds...

Which means I don't actually speak baby talk with my son either.. As I speak mostly French with my son I don't know how to talk french baby speak.   So a horse is still a horse and not horsey...   I do speak english with him as well but that is when I can't figure out the french words.. And being that it is general conversation nope no baby talk there... We do make lots of different sounds together though.. For some reason he loves to run around the house make the sound I use for when I tickle him.... 



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