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Help Your Child Pay Better Attention - Don't Yell |
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by Prinea  (October 2006) (rank 337th) |
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Most of us have either been there or have seen another parent be there. A mother raises her voice or yells at her child and the child doesn't respond or if he/she does it's in a negative way; tantrums, rebellion, etc.
Something that has worked for us in combating
this is to lower our voices, instead of getting louder when they aren't giving us their full attention we get quieter. We get down onto their level say their name and then lower our voice to a slightly quieter tone than our normal speaking voice. This "forces" the child to listen to what you're saying because they have to concentrate on it to hear you. With a yell they hear but don't focus.
I've found it works especially well with my strong-willed toddler, who is normally quite rebellious, this paired with a "positive tone" rather than a negative one when I have to get after her for something is very effective. The positive tone makes her more reponsive and the lower voice makes her focus on what mommy is saying. In the end we both win - she feels loved even in discipline, learns boundaries quicker because she's made to pay attention when I adderess them, and I don't find myself getting upset.
I hope this is as helpful to you as it's been to me!
Lexi xxx
I'm glad it helped!
