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If Your Baby Misses Milestones

pfallerj by pfallerj Proud Parent(October 2006) (rank 12th)

Today's first time parenting tip - If your baby is behind in an area, don't push too hard

Babies develop faster in some areas than others. It's a fact of life. But it seems that a lot of parents think they're baby is a failure if they're not in

the 99th percentile. They're just normal.

My son is bounds and leaps ahead of everyone in terms of physical feats like crawling, eating solid food, weight, height, etc. But he seems a little behind or normal on the interacting and speech parts of development.

Some parents might go into full panic mode the second they're baby misses a milestone, but I say, take it easy. The best thing you can do is work with them on it. Read with your son every night. Spend extra time talking and playing together. But by no means become obsessed. The extra pressure won't help. What will help is guiding him to success and letting him develop organically.

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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | nell18-3
milestones
When I had my eldest son I was such a 'pushy' mother in that I was always looking forward to the next stage of development, I was so proud when he was walking at 10 1/2 months, it was so exciting, when I had my second my daughter I made up my mind that this time I was not going to push at all but enjoy the baby, she had other ideas, did everything ahead of her time and was even walking at 9 months old, my third I was relaxed and happy and so was he, the most laid back child imaginable yet he still walked at 11 months,  finally my fourth again I tried to be laid back but this son was more like my daughter eager to get on, however he did not walk until 13 months. I guess what I'm trying to say is that no matter what we do, our babies will always develop at their rate not ours, all we are supposed to do is protect, love, care for and ENJOY!!!


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missice78
December 2006 | missice78
Comparisons
My mothers group is very pushy as far as what every baby can do, they are always trying to outod each other with milestones as a result I have stopped attending the lunches. My lil man is 8 months and cannot crawl yet but I am not bothered he still manages to get around by rolling and commando crawling and he will crawl when he is ready, this is what makes us interesting to each other that we develop different skills at different times, if everyone was  the same it would be boring!!!


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lian8
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2006 | lian8
Don't compare
One of the worse thing you can do is start comparing your child to someone elses. Also, turn a deaf ear to people who compare your child with theirs. Let the child develop at their own rate and stay optimistic.


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dolphins30
October 2006 | dolphins30
i agree
don't ever panic if your child is behind in something. As you said, work it out between the both of you. Not every child is the same at everything.


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Jessgore
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2006 | Jessgore
All Babies are different...
Every one grows at their own pace.... 


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allyp
4.00 (Good) | October 2006 | allyp
I agree!
I agree. My daughter is almost 8 months old and not crawling yet. But I am not too worried about it. When she wants to crawl, she will. Some babies are just different from others! While some babies start to walk at 6 months old(my niece did that) others dont. Like you said, it's a fact of life!


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