Trial and error is what parenting is all about.  What works for one child may not work for others or might only work a few times on each child.

We have to do the best we can and try to remember that we were probably like that at the same age

Thanks for sharing ! We all have different ways of dealing with tantrums and some might work for some and other might not work for others.

Thanx

There are loads of reasons why kids throw tantrums I guess the  usual of not getting want they want, being tired hungry etc. But there can also be more unusual causes. My son became violent towards me at age 3 about 3 months after a car accident we were in. No one would believe me at first and treated us like My son was just chucking a tamtrum and the attidue of "can't you control your kid" hurt me terribly. In desperation I finally found someone to assist me. It turned out to be Post Traumatic Stress and once we dealt with that the violence stopped within a week!!!. I also found my son to be irritable and hyperacitive constantly to the point it was unbearable we had allergy test done for a diffent reason (hives) and found he was allergic to 621 (MSG) 635 a flavour enhancer in alot of chips etc and 160b a natural colouring. Within 2 days of removing these preservatives from his diet the irritablity ceased, he settled and his adhd (if it is that) became manageable. It was astounding. So when my boy throws a tantrum I still deal with it the same way. I warn him once, then he goes on the cool down mat for 6 minutes (he is 6) then I ask him why he was there, he says sorry and 98% of the time thats it. (if not I withhold something ie no tv for 2 days or no playstation etc).but I also sus out if he has been eating something he should not have  I have also lear'nt to toughen my skin as he says really mean things when he is angry but If I do not respond, he gives up. Anyway I was nervous writing advice, cause all the advice is so good I thought mine was probably low value. But the allergie/food intolerance investigation s is worth a shot