Lost Libidos (FEMALES)

BE WARNED: The following is for Adult eyes only and deals with real issues in the bedroom! I have only pulled out what I believe to be the key points and everthing mentioned here can be found in more detail http://health.discovery.com/centers/womens/sexualhealth/healthysex.html . I have also underlined anything that I have copied word for word!

After having realized that not everyone has the sexual desire of animal on heat I decided to do some research on why some people lose their appetite (Libido). And I have found some interesting facts. So Don’t despair it is reclaimable and you aren’t the only one!

In fact According to the findings of a NIH-sponsored survey published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (Feb. 10, 1999) 43 percent of women report recognizable sexual dysfunction. Problems range from not being able to have orgasms to having no sexual desire at all.

You need to uncover your sex squelchers. Investigate a bit! Ask yourself what symptoms do you have? Do you have problems with fantasies, arousal, vaginal dryness, genital sensation or orgasm? Were these problems sudden or gradual and what was happening in your life at the time your sexual desire crashed and burned?

The leading libido killers:

• Post-Childbirth and Breastfeeding
• The onset of menopause
• Antidepressants and other drugs
• Stress
• Couple Troubles
• Other issues such as your image (weight, breast size ect.)

Remedies

There are many remedies out there available just make sure you consult your doctor first! It is also very important that you communicate and work on your desires as a couple.Understand that this not only affects you but him as well and unless you communicate he may feel undesirable and withdraw causing you to shut your desires down even more! Some other things that you can try before seeking medical attention are:

·        Take a walk together NO KIDS

·        Tell your partner exactly what will flick that switch from off to on. It doesn’t have to be in words (Mind you I find most males are not that bright when it comes to women if you know what I mean!)

·        Talk about sharing the workload

·        Take Time out to rediscover yourself. Forget about the kids and all the jobs around the house! Basically take time out to fantasise, spoil yourself or read a book!

Any way I know talking about sex isn’t interesting but I hope this has been of valuable help to you! I also know this isn’t parenting advice as such but it is just as important because relationships do need to be maintained and whilst kids do not need to know or understand what’s happening in your bedroom they do feel the strain.