Intimate relations (sex) after birth

Look it's scary having intimate relations after you have given birth, especially if it was a natural vaginal birth and even more so if you had cut's tears and stitches (episiotomy).

 Lets face it, I know from personal experience that I was a nervous as hell when we finally decided to give it a burl and it took about 5 months before we really even TALKED about it let alone "did it".

Hubby was as nervous as I was as he knew from being there what had gone on and didn't want to hurt me.

I was well and truely physically repaired by then, but mentally I had pretty much just begun to heal under the bandaid I had mentally put there. It's a big step and no-one talks about it.

You would be normal in your feelings to be scared, unsure, frightened, and if you are feeling like that, it is highly likely that you will NOT feel horney.  Just KNOW that, and let your partner know that you are not quite comfortable with it yet, but perhaps lay down on the bed dressed and have a kiss and a cuddle, and let him "court you" all over again.

Bringing back some intimate FEELINGS prior to a"roll in the hay"  is going to make things better for the both of you. 

Personally I was still very nervous when we finally took the plunge and as a result it was not the most wonderful experience, almost like the "first time" all over again. However;  the time following that, was my birthday and because it was my birthday we had cracked open a bottle of bubbly and drank about half each (which is a lot for me these days...sigh).  As a result we were both very relaxed, we had had a lovely day just hubby bubby and me, the whole feel of the day was warm and cuddly and it just happened for the first time in memory.

My advice is, talk about your feelings with your partner, you may be surprised that they too are a little concerned.  Go to you Dr. and get his/her all clear, just to rest you worries in that area.  don't put too much pressure on it, you probably did that trying to concieve, time for some good ol' fashioned "Love Making", because you are BOTH in the right frame of mind at the same time.

It'll happen, be kind to each other, listen to each other, spend a lovely family day drowning in the pleasures of your own little family sized world and then let be what will be with an open heart.

LOVE, TRUST & RELAX.