October 17th |
cheleinkal Does your new born, infant or toddler feed to sleep but wakes as soon as you move or place him/her in their crib????
The following are some hints that I have found to be very useful myself and with other peoples children I dealt with as a Nanny.
Mum was with us for 2 months after our daughter was born. She developed the habit of allowing bub to fall soundly asleep upon her ample chest. Of course the trick is to move that sleeper to a bed rather than a chest without ruining the sleep.
This became our problem, we even joked about inventing an artificial chest shaped like my Mum's. Because when she left when bub was 8 weeks old, we were in a spot of bother.
The solution was to put a loud ticking wall clock in her room and a noisy humming fan, I made sure the temp was always just right (not easy in summer), gave her a nice relaxing bath before her last feed using Johnson's bedtime lavendar bath wash (she was born with a ton of hair so I even washed her hair with it instead of shampoo) and I sprinkled lavendar oil onto face washers and hung them over her cot rail (so wouldn't fall in).
I think it took 3 nights before she was no problem at all. I did it whilst my hubby was on days off & we were able to do it in shifts, but I also
refused to feed her after midnight and before 6am, if she wanted something I gave her a dummy/pacifier. I didn't want her getting into the habit of having a feed during those times as I wasn't able to cope with it. Anyway that's what worked for us.
Set up a noisy clock and
a fan that is
faced AWAY from bub
so he
has some
soothing and steady and r
ythmic noises going on in his room. Your
womb is a
very noisy place and bub was listening to it for a long time, first time parents tend to lean towards tip toeing about when a baby is asleep when the
quieter it is the lighter the
baby will sleep and the more it will wake up.
Wrap bub
or use a
baby sleep bag (you may need to tuck it under at the arms and the end if too big, I did and worked great), he
may be waking himself up by
waving his
arms about
in his
sleep which just about every babe does. Try the wrap in a muslin (they tend to be bigger)
I lay them in a diamond fold down the top corner place the bubs head so is half over the fold and laying through the centre of the diamond. Pinning arms more or less at his side fold right side down and across tucking under bub and then repeat the left and then the bottom goes up and around back of shoulders, firm enough so his arms cant escape but not too tight. Or use a sleep bag with the bubs arms not in the sleeves but with the sleeves tucked firmly under his back when in his bed.
You could
try a
dummy/pacifier, slip it in when you withdraw the bottle or nipple when he's asleep and see if that helps.
If feeding him off to sleep at 2 months works for you both then do it, the first 3 months are the absolute worst and by 4 months you'll both be so much more adjusted you'll think you are a new woman.
Don't run to the cry, but do go and check him out. If you can see him from afar, without him seeing you just to reasure yourself that he really is okay, might help you leave hm even a minute longer than you have been, but again, it's what ever works for you at this point in time, everything right now is hay wire for you, your emotions and hormones are all over the place, your brain has flowed out of your nipples seemingly not to return until you hit menapause and your little bundle of love is nothing like the well dressed poop and spew free kids you've seen on Days of Our Lives.
T
his is the hard part, so forget the millions of expert advice and
do what works for you, don't feel forced into making any decissions because it is very hard to make decissions at this stage (and stick to them) nothing is irriversable, you wont be scarring him for life or anything, you may have to do 5 days of hard work later on down the track but you will be in a better mind set and in a better and stronger and more comfortable position to do this then so don't stress about it now.
Try the noise making and the wrapping or sleep bag and relax. You can only do what you can do and no one should judge you because if they are a mother themselves they know what you are going through and should be able to sympathise and Men are just stupid so ignore them.
Good Luck and have a cup of coffee, if he cry's take your coffee to his door and peek through and finish your coffee. he just misses you because he loves you, thats all, and you know you will always be there for him so you just have to make him realise that.
(November 2006) (
