Toilet Training Pressure to be early.

Hi

I am a great believe that a child will toilet train when they are ready and not beofre

I have had the potty there once they could walk and if they wanted to use it they did if not ah well

Megan trained herself at the age of 3 because it was what she wanted both day and night with one accident at night

Rowan decided at around 3 to start using the toilet and took his nappy off himself

Mum tried to train him at 18 months and he stressed so bad i said leave him alone.  he was scared of the toilet potty and everything

We had a few wet nights and i told him if he kept wetting the bed i would put a nappy back on and he stopped

Jalan at 2 uses the potty if she wants but no pressure If she pees or poos too much on the floor we put her nappy back on for a while and say have a rest

Freinds of mine believeing they should train early got their child using the toilet at just over 16 months by 2 they were wetting and pooing everywhere and did so til around the age of 4 when they were ready

A lot of toilet training when young is what i call "toilet timing"  <<< you get the timing right not them

But each to their own method and every child is different and no pressure shouldf be put on the parents or the kids as to when you should train your child

Funnily enough a lot of baby and toddler websites are now advocating for a later toilet train time than years ago

So who knows

Luv Deb

 

What fun huh!  I remember E trained herself, I put her back in nappies on the advice of our paediatrician as we were planning a long haul flight a few months later and she said a baby out of nappies would be horrendous, having never travelled with a baby i did as she said.  A year later she was dry again.  Just not at nursery. 

In fact she regularly wet at nursery.  The manager and people of clout suggested I was making it up that she was dry at home and whenever we went out or travelled....the 'nobodies' who worked there told me that actually they would frequently tell E that "We will take you in a minute" and about 15 mins later when she was wet they would take her.

E could hold it as long as she knew she was heading to the toilet.  On visits to town she would frequently need to go.  I would know where the nearest was and let her know how long it would take us to get there - the longest I kept her waiting was 20 mins.  But she always waited.  She has great control!  So the nursery was certainly up to no good in our case, but at least I got her out of there to somewhere else where she was cared for and flourished.

Just my remembered two cents *clink .... clink*
Peace
EF.x 

great advice

thanks for sharing

emz

 

My daughter just turned 3 when we started to toilet train her, and it took about 6 months all up for her to be dry day and night, and on an odd occasion, she's wet the bed,

We have a cut off point from when she can have her last cup of drink, and that's usually with dinner at 5pm. In the summer and when it's really hot, i pump the drinks into her, and the cut off point is still the same, but i give her a drink just before she goes to bed, and goes to the loo just before she goes to bed also.

If she needs to go to the toilet in the night, she usually wakes me up to go. But every child is different, and they'll do different things.

for honestly presenting what did and didnt work for you. my son is having problems with this so it is good to find this article.

My daughter is 17 months and I realize that potty training is the next big thing for us, so I've started looking into it.  Thanks for writing an article that puts my mind a bit more at ease about it.

I have read a little about potty training early. Some articles say that early potty training is actually training the parent to know when their child needs to go. I have 18 month old twins who are not potty trained and are showing no signs. My daughter potty trained at 28 months. She was trained easily and has had very few accidents (maybe 4 in total that is night and day). She is almost three. i am tired of changing diapers and i thought i would check out early potty training and decided against it after looking at a few articles. I am going to wait to see a few potty training signs before i attempt it.

I am not sure if there is a thing as to early I would not know.. All I know is I think I'll wait until after January to potty train Francis, he will be 20 months then, We are heading to Australia next month Yeah, and I don't really want to be stressing about carring the potty with me and well if he is not trained by the time we got on the plane well wouldn't that be fun for all.. And altough he seems to have an intrest in flushing the toilet he has no intrest in sitting on it... So I'll wait.. 

 

I have just started Jacob on the potty he is 18months but it is no pressure, we let him run around in jocks all weekend and when i am not at  work, which he absolutely loves. He thinks he is such a big boy. At this stage we have more accidents than we have success but we are not stressed, we hd Zac toilet trained by the time Jacob came along when he was 2 and he had a few accidents but that was more to get attention from mum than anything, he knew if he was wet i would have to put Jacob down and change him. once he got used to having Jacob around he was fine again.

Oh how much pressure did you put on yourself and your kids. We all do it. Thankyou for writing this as it is a great example of how worry and placing too much pressure is not a good tool for learning. You also say that you have watched other parents shrug toilet training off with out any stress. I can say that they would have been concerned too. My girlfriends are currently talking about how to train, what are the best methods, comparing with other kids etc. We all worry about it but, the child needs to be ready and it does need to be a slow process.

I was lucky in that both of my kids were toilet trained relatively early, my daughter at 18mnths(2 &1/2 at night) and my son at 26 mnths. The potty was part of the furniture from the time they could walk. They just watched my hubby and me go to the toilet and it was a natural progression for them. My son has wet his pants twice and my daughter once when she was four and at kinder/preschool.

my parenting style to date has been to let nature take its course, so potty training wasn't a big stressor for us.  i put the kids in pullups when they got to be around two but didn't make a big push.  eventually they went on their own and we didn't have a lot of drama, but they were much later than the gotta-get-em trained early crowd.  i will say that if i had had a kid that was really into training, i would have done it sooner but neither one cared that much and it wasn't a big issue.