Custody issiue.

Hello all,what to do when i got part time custody to having my daugther every

third weekend because i live so far away from her.also i meant to have her half the holidays.The problem is her mother hangs up on me when i ring,im allowed to ring my

daughter three times aweek.I havnt had her for 12 months now,They moved house without telling me,i found that out when her mother wanted money.I have made arrangements to pick her up,3 hour drive only to get there and they have gone away,thats happen 3 times,Took her back to court her mother got in big trouble,then everything was find until i got married.we havnt been together for 6 years now.She is going out with a 17 year old,shes 47 ,Which she lets any one live in her house.Which im concern about my daugthers safely,docs told me they cant do anything until some thing happens,which they rang me first to ask me if i have any concerns.Sorry to rant on.Thanks all

I do gather you see your daughter, so first thing's first, be there for her, listen to her problems if she has any, keep an eye on any kind of suspishes marks, bruses, or attitued changes, the problem the law, has is prooving if a vilation has accoured, so some of your replys are correct in hang in there, but there are some things you can do, to help you from worring,  it all depends on how well you get on with your daughter, do you have a good communication, going, can you listen to her if she is in trouble, with out you getting too angry, as this is important, so that you have a good relationship, in comunicating, with her, so if some thing is going on, she can feel free to talk to you, let you know, if things are not right, you need to spend fun loving times with her too, so dont ask questions of the kind that incriminate her mother, as she loves her mother to, you need to be descret, in sertain ways, to get answers, eventualy your daughter will work it out on whats wrong and right,  as i said above, the best advise is just be there for her, as in my case, i have a singel mother, in the same position, as she has 2 boys, and a farther doing the same as whats happening with you, just that theres to much tuging and pulling, instead of getting into parenting, and keep in mind children have a habbit of playing you both against each other, search your own feelings. to do what is wright with in the law, and allways keep up to date of what the law says what you can do and cannot do, and wright to the proper authoritys, of your concerns, so that thay to are up to date, so if the times comes thay can ackted. well hope this gave you some thing to go on, Also be a friend, as well as a farther to her, be gentel as needed,  stern when its called for, above all show LOVE.