Misbehaviour in young children

I've come across a lot of parents that have "difficult" children misdiagnosed and on medications of various types when at the core of the problem is really abuse, neglect, domestic violence, bullying at school, or just a lack of discipline.  On the other hand there are kids out there that can't get on medication they really do need because they have big problems but are well behaved and disciplined and not picked on and are well cared for. The real test I guess is how they are when put into a safe, calm, happy environment where they know the rules and expectations.

I just want to thank you for noting that "issues" with childhood behavior can be remedied without the use of medication.  After 4 years in the mental health field I left disgusted because there was too much medicating and not enough therapy going on.  In our society there is a "pill for every ill" and when people just don't want to deal with something or someone they turn to pharmasudicals.  I've seen children as young as 3 "diagnosed" and medicated for ADHD, ODD, and other "disorders."  9 times out of 10 these types of issues can be taken care of with diet, discipline, Patience, parental, and professional involvement.  While there are those cases that do require some chemical assistance as a society we are too quick to medicate and I am pleased to see someone else speaking to this. 

i know when i am flustered and the disiplining goes by the way side, my children play up more. they know mum is flustered and can't stick to her word. I now make sure no matter how busy or flustered i am i stick to my work and if needed disipline as i say i am going to do