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Minti addiction – is it a serious issue?

MumKim by MumKim Young Parent(November 2006) (rank 11th)

Hi my name is Kim and I am a Minti-holic.

A lot of us joke about being addicted to Minti and some of us aren’t really joking. I have to admit I am a Minti addict. The funny thing is that I have been on the other side

of the addiction. My first husband was a computer addict. I left him and his computer usage was definitely a large part of the reason why.

At one stage during my first marriage I went to HolyOake to do a course for family members of addicts. Initially the other people in the group looked at me strangely when I said what my husband’s addiction was. Within a few weeks one of the ladies who was married to a violent alcoholic commented to me about just how similar our marriages were. Just for the record my ex never hit me. My ex didn’t drink, smoke, gamble or do drugs. He used the computer all day and all night except when he was sleeping. He worked on computers all day at work and then came home and played computer games until the early hours of the morning. In the last 12 months of our marriage he also added a gym addiction. He went from 125kg to 85kg in only a few months by eating only salad sandwiches for lunch and dinner and daily trips to the gym to use the treadmill.When he wasn’t on the computer he was talking about it. He was obsessed with online interactive adventure gaming. Most of the people he like to play with were in the US, so the best time for him to play was late at night our time when they were on their computers. Eventually after an 11 year relationship I decided that I could not live like that any more. I left him and we are both much happier as a result.

The other day my gorgeous wonderful second husband told me I was turning into my ex husband. I couldn’t deny it.

My Minti addiction is affecting the amount of time I spend doing other things.

Instead of doing housework – I am on Minti.

Instead of sorting the spare room to get it ready for baby – I am on Minti.

Instead of spending time with my husband when he is home – I am on Minti.

When I wake up in the middle of the night – I think about blogs, questions and advice I can write on Minti when I get up.

Some mornings before I have even had my shower – I am on Minti.

Late at night – I am on Minti.

My goodness, what will happen when the baby is born? Will I still be on Minti?

So now I am trying to reduce the amount of time I spend on Minti.

Being 33 weeks pregnant I need regular breaks from housework and other activities. So often during the day I set my timer 15 minutes on housework then I can either lie down or sit at the computer for 15 minutes. Then it is back to the house work again for 15 minutes.

I am trying to exercise control to stay off Minti in the morning until after 11.

I am trying to spend less time on Minti on the evenings that my husband is home.

I know I should try a Minti free day, but I am not quite ready for that yet!

A google search on ‘computer addiction’ comes up with pages of results including articles in scientific journals. There are even professional services to help people with computer addiction. 

A good article with  a list of symptoms and some good recommendations for strategies to control computer addiction can be found at  http://www.hno.harvard.edu/gazette/1999/01.21/computer.html

A brief fact sheet on computer can be found at http://www.mediafamily.org/facts/facts_gameaddiction.shtml

A nice list of the symptoms of computer addiction along with some suggestions for overcoming it can be found at http://www.utdallas.edu/counseling/selfhelp/computer-addiction.html

Please have a read of the symptoms. Are you a computer addict too?

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August88
April 2008 | August88
Re: Minti addiction – is it a serious issue?

Time flies when you are on the computer! My kids think that I have an addiction to minti as it is the only thing I come on the computer for. I never used them before this so it is interferring with there time I think. That is the only reason they complain. They would rather be on here.



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      robalman
May 2008 | robalman
Re: Minti addiction – is it a serious issue?

Maybe you need to invest in a second computer so you can continue your addiction with reduced interruptions.

It's funny that you say Minti is the only thing you come online for...I used to surf all sorts of stuff pre-minti.

Minti is like having another family.



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DarkenedAngel
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | DarkenedAngel
Re: Minti addiction – is it a serious issue?
I couldn't help but laugh at my son tonight. He'd complained at me this morning that I was on the computer too much, and so I let him have it for a while... 12 hours later and I'm harassing him to get off the computer to go to bed! HYPOCRITE! LOL


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      robalman
May 2008 | robalman
Re: Minti addiction – is it a serious issue?

He is just making up for lost time. LOL.



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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | cazza
Re: Minti addiction – is it a serious issue?
i was concerned about this when i joined up here in november and answered with advise, now i take that back, as i agree that this is addictive, but in a good way....

I enjoy this site heaps and glad to have found it, and bugger the house work as its always going to be there..

The friends i have made on here has made my year and i cant think of a better addiction to have ...


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      robalman
May 2008 | robalman
Re: Minti addiction – is it a serious issue?

In regards to the house work, I find that if I spend an hour on minti I can then do some house work...I work faster so I can get back to the computer before my wife.

You are 100% right about the friends though...well worth the addiction.



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emmie
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | emmie
Re: Minti addiction – is it a serious issue?
my partner says i love minti more than him lmao.


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      robalman
May 2008 | robalman
Re: Minti addiction – is it a serious issue?

Jealousy is a curse.

At times I get similar remarks from my dearly beloved but it is great that your partner can express how he feels so openly and honestly with you, it shows just how much he loves you.

Continue to do all the fun things in life together and maybe even introduce him to minti...we could always do with another male voice.



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RebeccaDorant
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | RebeccaDorant
i'm a minti addict
hello my name is rebecca and i'm a minti addict  "smiles through dark glasses and waves politely to the room" i think i'm loosing my tan sitting here... i wonder if the wireless can reach out to the back yard... hmmm... "why do you think it is so addictive?" the councilor asks. "rebecca would you like to add somthing to this discusion?" she replies with a slugish and sleep deprived "yes, i would like to say... (pause for effect)... WHAT DID YOU DO WITH MY LAPTOP AHHHHHHHHH!" and she throws the chair across the white room and runs to her nearest i-net cafe, gets her fix and lives in the cyber world of minti happily ever after... the end


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      robalman
May 2008 | robalman
Re: i'm a minti addict

Well thats a different outlook on the whole issue.

Yes the wireless sounds like a great idea to freshen up our anemic skin.

I don't things would get quite that bad for me that I would become violent if minti was taken away but it does make you wonder.



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Goddessie7
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | Goddessie7
Addicted!
I am supposed to be getting my 7 year old ready for school now! In fact..... We are late! No i am not addicted.... Just enthused!


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      robalman
May 2008 | robalman
Re: Addicted!

Just enthused....I think someone is experiencing denial...LOL



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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | nell18-3
Minti under attack!!!!
Think my 13 year old is trying to tell me something. He just loaded the Minti homepage on to his special effects programme then promptly chainsawed the homepage into pieces, then reloaded it and splashed paint ball pellets all over it, he then reloaded it again and attacked it with meteorites then to finish it off he reloaded the page and flooded it.
I think he may be trying to tell me something


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      robalman
May 2008 | robalman
Re: Minti under attack!!!!

Kids quite often have such subtle ways of letting us know how they feel. pmsl



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kelfa
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | kelfa
minti addiction
My partner says im having an affair with minti, I have to say I do come on here alot, this website is a very comforting site , I think thats why im liking it tooooooo much!


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breannababy
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | breannababy
Food for thought
I was shrugging off my husbands taunts of addiction to computer.There is a serious note to this for me though!!!!And yes I have also tried to start limiting my computer time......pretty scary HUH regards Merle


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OzBinky
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | OzBinky
I feel another Group coming on.....'Minti Anonymous
Hi, I'm Lavinia and I'm also addicted to minti. I was clean for a few hours and then noticed a really good bit of advice. I tried to restrain myself but I too have the bug....'tis going to be a long long long road for recovery and by the look of it, we are all going to be totally useless with helping each other.....it is just a good thing we can get together here, this sacred place and support our addiction.....


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      MumKim
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | MumKim
I feel another Group coming on.....'Minti Anonymous
The Minti system did not let them use the word 'Minti' in the name so the group is called Healthy time on line.  It was started a few weeks ago when I first wrote the article.


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pagan-mum-of-three
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | pagan-mum-of-three
Yep, Yep, Yep,

Ha, Ha, Ha, so I'm not the only one!!!

This site is great. I always think, 'Just one more page to read - Then I'll go' Then one turns into 10 & before I know it, I've been here 4 hours.... When I should be in bed.        Hmmm!!

But I'm not here every day.

Yet!



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robalman
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | robalman
Minti Addiction

WOW...This site really does have an influence on people.

I really can't afford to become addicted because I am already so far behind the eightball when it comes to the housework.

But you have to admit...Minti is a good excuse!!!



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      MumKim
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | MumKim
Minti Addiction
Beware the addiction! I too have difficulty with getting the housework done. I have found that using the Flylady helps. We have set up a minti group of those of us using the Flylady method. check out Flybabies.
You will find a link to the Flylady's website there.
Welcome to Minti. By the way - love the beach photo on your homepage.


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angelmum
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | angelmum
I don't think so
Im not, am I, no I don't think so. So my husband calls me a Minti Freak and an addict, he is just jealous, its my time and I love it, so I check it a lot but that doesn't mean I'm addicted does it, all things in moderation and I know I will get there I just need time thats all!!  I have had the house to myself all afternoon, I could of caught up on house work but how much fun is that, I did a little bit in between coming on here. IM NOT AN ADDICT am I


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      DarkenedAngel
October 2007 | DarkenedAngel
Re: I don't think so
Nah, you're just in denial. ROFL!


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cazza
3.63 (Good) | November 2006 | cazza
minti addiction
my advise is that you and your husband need to sit down and come up with a mutual uagreement,as a baby is a fulltime job,and you dont want to lose that precious time as afamily,Goodluck.


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cheleinkal
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | cheleinkal
No longer suffering in silence hahaha
When I first discovered minti my ranking went from 250+ to 14th in a matter of 2 weeks (give or take)....that doesn't happen becasue I was hanging out my washing...I put it in the dryer.  It doesn't happen if you are getting sleep....thank god for insomnia.  For 2 months I was an obsesive compulsive Minti addict.  Now I denigh myself EVERY urge I have.  I make sure I have DONE some house work and at least planned and organised dinner (eg. taken the meat out of the freezer).  The bed is made and I am not in my p.j.'s still.  If the urge is too strong I turn off the p.c.  It takes forever to boot up, so I HAVE to go and do something else in the mean time.  I do often feel guilty about leaving a wearying bub in the hanging doorway (in a Jolly Jumper) whilst I frantically sing her something to keep her mildly amused whilst I finish what ever it is I am doing.  I must say though that my typing speed has never been better and my accuracy is also improving....it's not all bad.


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      JadieLady
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | JadieLady
No longer suffering in silence hahaha
me too !! I think i joined minti about the same time a you, and spent a good 10 hours or so a day on here!  but now that i have a download limit on my internet connection i really cant afford to pay $80 a month for the exess usage, and now i only come on minti every couple of days, even once a week! And unfortunately sometimes longer.


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mrsbrown4701
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | mrsbrown4701
Denial
I am not addicted......!

What?   I'm NOT......

NO! I AM NOT!

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OK...well maybe a bit..... but not completely..... I can give it up when ever I want..

I just don't WANT to....


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      mrsbrown4701
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | mrsbrown4701
Denial


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mrsbrown4701
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | mrsbrown4701
to all my online friends... a prayer for you :-)
I'm not exactly the religious type, but having said that...

On this quiet evening,
As I'm lying here in bed,
This tiny little prayer,
Keeps running through my head.

God bless my mum and dad,
And the rest of my family too,
Keep them warm, and safe from harm
May their 'sweet dreams' come true.
And god there's one more thing,
I wish that you could do,
Hope you don't mind me asking...
Bless my computer too.
Now I know that it's not normal,
To bless a mother board,
But listen just a second,
While I explain to you dear Lord...
You see, my computer's hard drive,
Holds more than odds and ends. Inside those small compartments,
Rest so many of my friends

I know so much about them,
The love and support that they give,
Because day and night my CPU
Takes me into where they live.
By faith is how I know them,
Much the same as you,
We've shared in what life brought us,
And from that our friendship grew.

Please take an extra minute,
From your duties up above,
To bless those in my address book,
That's filled with so much love.

Where ever else this prayer may reach
To each and every friend,
Bless their e-mail inbox,
And the person who hits 'SEND'
When you update your heavenly list
On your own CD-ROM,
Remember those who've said this prayer,
Sent up to God.Com

Amen


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      michellei
November 2006 | michellei
to all my online friends... a prayer for you :-)
That is a really cool poem.


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michellei
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | michellei
Count Me In
I'm an addict too.


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monyq83
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | monyq83
Im an addict
Hi my name's Mony and im a Minti-holic. Its been 3 minutes since my last comment.im on here from 6in the morning when i first wake up, til about 10 at night when i go to bed. im sure ill lose my job due to unproductiveness because im too busy Mintiing all day, but thats a risk I'm willing to take. i dont have many friends in real life, i lost most of them when i started a family. im sure theres plenty of other young mums that are in the same situation. minti has given me the opportunity to make friends with other parents, even if its not in real life, i can still talk to my minti-friends every day. this is one addiction im happy to hold on to.


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Marlena
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | Marlena
Me too
I think I might be a Minti-addict to


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lexiw
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | lexiw
Addictions come in all forms
Addictions come in all forms and the first step is always admitting you have a problem if you can do that then you can get better. Try and work out what you are compensating for by spending so much time on the computer. If it is the need to be around other parents try volunteering at your local daycare or preschool.


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exquisite-flower
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | exquisite-flower
"Addicted to Minti" group

As suggested by someone the other day I have set up a group for those who wish to enjoy Minti without being here too long or neglecting other parts of our lives in the process.  The idea is that this will encourage us to be good stewards of our time with our children, but still have some fun to spend here together. 

http://healthy-time-online.minti.com/

I hope it is ok to post this here in this way.
Peace
EF.x 



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      MumKim
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | MumKim
Great place to post it!
Thanks for starting the group and inviting me. I have joined.


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Jessgore
4.71 (Excellent) | November 2006 | Jessgore
My name is Jess and I to am a minti-holic...

As Kim and Allyp both know I am up until all hours of the morning often signing off at 2am...   My son is currently asleep and well I should be cleaning, and planing for our trip to Australia.. I believe if it was not for the fact that I have my computers in the basement, and that Francis and I go to day care twice a week I would be soooo stuck sitting down here in the basement.   Because the basement is a Francis free room as we have way to many buttons to push, or CD racks to empty I don't bring him down here, keeping me off most times during the day (Unless of course like now he is taking his nap)...  If not for this I would be down here way to often for me even to see sunlight...

Now I love Minti and it is a wonderful place and I talk about my minti friends to my husband as if I have met them all personally and we have been out to dinner.   If not for the fact that my husband is also into computers,  I think this would be an even bigger problem for us.  My son goes down to sleep at 7.30pm and then signing off at 2am.. That is almost a full days work....

My husband asked me the other day if I knew the meaning of WORLD WIDE WEB..  I do believe there is more out there then just minti but hey I like it here it is a place where I can hang my hat and call home.  (I know strange but true)...

And with the possibility of my step daughter coming to live with us ( I may blog about that in a few days when I know the facts) I can't be down here all the time.  She will need attention too...   

Anyway that is my story.....  

Kim thanks for making me think even harder about it and well lets just say I am going to bed early tonight... Nudge Nudge wink wink...   If I can get the hubby off his computer.

 



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allyp
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | allyp
I am one too!!

I think the only reason I turn on my computer besides to check my email is to go Minti... I am always on minti even if there isn't anything to do expect read everyone's blog... I am here LOL.. Just like you, when my hubby is home, I am on here... Opps, my bad!! So tonight.. I think i'm going to have a minti free night and spend some time with my hubby before he actually has to go back to work..(he works out of town and has little time when he is home)

That was great... It's nice to see that there is someone else out there that has a minti addiction!!



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Neeters
4.00 (Good) | November 2006 | Neeters
I love it here

The only reason I am not around lately is because work prevents me from logging in.  Otherwise I would be here all the time too.  Unfortunately I need my job and the more I am here the less work I do and the more chance I have of being unemployed. 

Sigh.

 



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      robalman
April 2008 | robalman
Re: I love it here

Work getting in the way of Minti...How dare it...LOL



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Frontier
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | Frontier
I wont read the articles
I know I will not be happy with what I find.
You probably notice I minti in spurts. One days I will be there all day and then you will not see me for a day or so. This is when I am building websites and spending all my money buying stuff.
I am an online shoppaholic and I buy all sorts of gadgets and stuff, the house id full of it.
I only found minti because I was searching for a Roomba in Australia and found a post from here in the Google results. The Roomba is off the list now as I have realised I have spent over $10,000 online in the last 3 years.
This year I have tried to focus more on the kids and jobs around the house. I am good at the house cleaning but things like painting the house, gardening and so on just get put on the back burner.
My wife works as hard as I did when I was in a management career and I remember how draining it was and how tired I used to get. I need to have something for her when she gets home so I make sure I am not on the computer when she arrives home and the kids are bathed and fed. (Gee I sound like a housewife )
The role swap has been great but I don't go out much and my circle of friends has shrunk to almost nothing so it is easy to get engrossed in the forums and chat rooms on the Internet. Now I have spent all my money I spend more time chatting and yes it can be a problem.
Wow, I think I have said enough but gee you got me thinking.


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      MumKim
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | MumKim
I wont read the articles
I know what you mean. It is scary. I think part of the reason it has happened for me is that I have moved from a town where I worked 50+ hours a week and was a volunteer fire fighter to a new town where I don't know many people. I am not working (and I miss it!) and I spent the first few months in bed throwing up with morning sickness.  I am not in any state to join the volunteer fire brigade here until after the baby is born and even then it will be more difficult. I go to craft groups twice a week but have not met many people my own age (most of the ladies at craft are 55 years plus).
I am hoping that once the baby is born I will be able to get involved with mothers groups etc and make some new face to face friends that way.


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           jenlemen
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | jenlemen
I wont read the articles
I think my worst times of online addiction (if you want to call it that) came during times of stressful transition--like moving, having a baby or change in job.  there's something reassuring about having an online world--complete with friendships and without the hassle of schedules and limitations due to logistics.  your online world stays put right there on the computer no matter where you live or if you have the time for a shower or not!

but we were focusing on the downside of all this!  yes!  i agree--it's very hard for me to not be online (minti or not) for breakfast, lunch or dinner.


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Chrysalis
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | Chrysalis
Well done
Very honest and very well written. Thanks for bringing up this very touchy subject. It something I have to work very hard to keep under control - not just Minti in particular- but the computer


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      exquisite-flower
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2006 | exquisite-flower
Well done

same here.  It is something I work at keeping in perspective.  In total my internet/computer hours have not increased since I have been on minti, instead I have one more window open and just pop on and off all day long as i have the time. 

I have always known the danger of internet addiction, and thankfully someone called me on it earlier this year when i was sat at it all the time it was on (all day).  So although it is still always on, i am sat here for spurts of time, and we do spurts of housework, spurts of play and shcooltime and now E gets a concentrated 20 min slot every day too. 

Is 20 mins too long for a three year old?  Seriously.  I dont know.  But she could be on for hours doing her CBeebies and other sites, though we tend to do CBeebies mostly for educational reasons.

Well written Kim.  I think when bub is born you will find that you wean off Minti.  Especially as you are already aware of the dangers.  But for now enjoy your breaks and time on Minti I for one sure enjoy your posts!
Peace
EF.x 



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           robalman
April 2008 | robalman
Re: Well done

It is great to know that I am not the only one that is addicted to minti.

Go hard all you minti holics but lets not forget our families along the way.

As for the computer from a young age...I would say that if we fail to educate our children in this area they will be left behind in the technology filled world. But please make sure your security is up to date and monitor their use.



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