Truth Equalls Trust

I think this is great advice, i totally agree with your points.....especailly the one don't lose your temper or another one, don't talk down to them. I think if you can keep the lines of communciation open with your children, that's half the battle. Sounds like you have done very well, reading your comment below....well done!

Cheers Janice

The trust give to a child from a young age gives a child a sence of worth but they must also learn that responsibilities come with this trust.

My daughter is 18 and just finished her year 12 TEE exams and is trying to understand what it is like to be an adult. For myself, this alone was a confussing time

Friday night just gone she asked if she could go to a slumber party knowing the answer would be yes but she still asked. I was pleased when I found out the following day that there were 10 girls, 7 of them were religious and they went out for tea the returned and watched movies until 3amish. They had 3 hours sleep and then went swimming had breakfast and went their separate ways to work. My daughter was excited to talk to me/us about her night. Although she wanted to go to sleep early because of work the next day she said she was aware of the influence her piers had on her and that she would cope better with in next time.

After a few hours sleep on the couch she said she was going for a walk. 45 minutes latter I get a txt msg saying she had walked to a friends and how long till tea time. Tea was ready but I delayed it because she had been so thoughful...kind of a silent reward.

Even this morning I wake up and she is not here...but there is a note to say, "gone swimming and the time she left, how could you not love her.

Sure we have let her make some mistakes but that is life and she has learnt from them as we did when we were children.

We can not mould them into being US because they are NOT but we can TRY to guide them in the right direction and be ready to pick up the pieces when the apple cart topples over.

If punishment is needed make it appropriate and quick but never forget to reward them when good is done...sometimes all that is needed is a cuddle or a .

There are times that your children will laugh and also when they will cry if you can be there for both you are on the right track.

Regards

Rob A

I mucked up once.. I say once because after my parents grounded me for two months during the summer school holidays I did not want that to happen again...   I think on those occations when parents don't trust their kids, is because they think back to times when they were kids...   I was thinking "How did my parents know that!"  My mum just looked at me and said "I was your age once too you know....

From a young age my parents always asked the, when, who with, and always gave me a time to be home. I think starting this early is a great idea and habit forming... I am now 31 years of age, married, and live in another country, and I still call my parents up to tell them I am going away for the weekend, or that I may not be home for the night.  Ok that might sound funny to most, but I just can't seem to help myself... I still need them to know where I am at all times...  And I'll be starting this with Francis from the minute he asks can I go to a friends house.. Oh sure you'll get the odd, you told me you were going to be here but you went there instead problems (maybe) but in my case I only did it once, and the cure was grounded for two months.