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Baby Crying For Attention

Blond-Wild-Child by Blond-Wild-Child Talking(November 2006) (rank 133rd)

My baby is driving a little crazy lately as he is crying for my attention all day long and not learning to play by himself.  He is four months old and just started rolling one way and he can't seem to play by himself on the floor when i

want to go and do housework or other duties.  he winges and winges until i pick him up and then he smiles at me.  This happens mostly in the afternoons but it makes preparing dinner and other duties very dififcult and tests my patience every day.  I have tried to just leave him and let him learn that mummy can't come every time he cries - but he doesn't let up.

Advice would really help me before i start pulling my hair out and my house is becoming a more like a bomb hit it as i can't ever get the housework done.

I would not be picking him up all the time because the more you do the more he knows he only has to open his mouth and you will come running. Have you tried sitting him in a high chair near a bench and put some toys on it for him so he can see what you are doing and also play with his toys or put him on a bunny rug in the same room with you and some of his toys so he can play with his toys but still see you. With both of my girls i put them in a bouncer and put thenm infront of the t.v. while i made dinner or whatever i had to do, i found they like the colors of the t.v. and would lie there quietly for some time, i don't suggest you do it all the time only from time to time otherwise baby will want to see t.v. all the time. It sounds like your baby wants your attention so putting him in the same room as you so he can play and see what you are doing  that way you are still giving him attention just not your full attention, babies like to see and do and there is always something (like the t.v.) that will capture their attention. I would also give him either a cup so he can bang it or a teething ring so he can chew on it at his age with babies everything like to go in their mouth. If you give him toys to play with in the same room as you then he is occupied and you don't need to stop and start with whatever it is you are doing, if you have to leave the room just make sure its not for to long so he knows you are still there just moving around the house. Good luck.


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lexiw
October 2007 | lexiw
Re: Baby Crying For Attention

Good advice thanks for sharing

 Lexi xxx



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Marlena
4.00 (Good) | January 2007 | Marlena
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I think you are right in saying not to pick them up.  If you do that they are gonna cry everytime they want you.  I also find that children who are held all the time take longer to crawl and stuff also.  Good advice I think.


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ckelly
4.88 (Excellent) | December 2006 | ckelly
Seelking attention

With my son i use to put him in his walker and lock the wheels as i did housework, i would move him around from room to room with me. If i needed to go into another room but didnt take my son with me i would sing to him so that he could still hear me, even when he couldnt see me.
I like the Highchair idea in the kitchen, I think this would be good.



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allyp
4.88 (Excellent) | December 2006 | allyp
this is what i did

I don't know if I agree with that. I would always go to my daughter whenever she cried, as I'm sure all first time moms do when they hear their baby screaming at the top of their lungs. Now my daughter wanted to be held most of the time, but as soon as she started to crawl, she didnt want to be held UNLESS she was real cranky and wouldn't fall asleep herself or she just wanted to be up.

Also what I did if she really wanted me and I had to do something like dish's or cook dinner I would put her in her high chair or swinging chair and put it where I would be that way she could see what i was doing. That way you don't have to deal with a screaming baby and neighbours wondering what's going on. That helped me and i would tell any mom out there that are having this problem the exact same thing to see if it would work for them.



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lizardsmom
2.32 (Poor) | November 2006 | lizardsmom
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I think it is important to note that everyone has a different take on this issue.  Can a child REALLY be spoiled before 6mos?  I tend to think not.  My daughter is often like this in the AM while I am trying to get ready for work.  She is 5mos and does well most of the time with entertaining herself but when she is first waking up early she can be like a growth, she wants to be constantly attached.  Obviously I can not have her on my hip in the shower or blow drying my hair so our typical schedule goes something like - 6a I am up and eat breakfast, 6:30a Colleen wakes up and nurses while I catch the morning news, 6:45-7a I get a shower while Colleen lays on a blanket on the bathroom floor with the dog (whom she LOVES) and we sing (sometimes she realizes I am not paying a whole lot of attention to her and fusses or screams) 7-7:15a Colleen lays on the bed with the dog and her goose while I get dressed,  7:15-7:30a Colleen eats cereal and then nurses while I put on my make-up, 7:30-7:45a if Colleen isn't asleep she plays in her Johnny Jump-Up in the kitchen door while I get her bottles and milk ready for the day.  Now, during the times I am not paying attention to her she does get demanding sometimes but she knows I am near.  I feel that it is important she knows she can trust that when she is in need of something he Momma will provide for her, even if it is just attention.  Basically, you have to do what feels right for you and your baby. 

Have faith, he will learn to entertain himself. 



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