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4.03 (Worth a try) from 14 votes (397 Visits)

Encourage use of language

by rachinbar

(May 2006) (rank 100th)

My daughter is younger (just 14 months), but when she starts screaming, we tell her that screaming is not pleasant for us and we tell her to tell us what she wants (she's very verbal and communicates well, we're not torturing her). When she uses words, we tell her how much we enjoy that she can ask for what she wants and do our best to do what she wants (obviously, only if it's reasonable). When she screams we tell her that we don't understand what she wants (even if we do). I make it a point never to give positive reinforcement for screaming. I hope that being consistent will make her stop.

Good luck!
Rachel

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2006 \| tinker79

Great Advice!

I am amazed on how many people give into their kids when the are screaming and having a fit.

At 14 months, wow! Good on you for no letting it happen to you!!

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	4.50 (Excellent) \| August 2006 \| TheMentorMom

Good Point

Good point. As she gets older and develops her language skills (say around 2 1/2), you can tell her that mom and dad won't listen to whining, yelling, etc. You cana then try ignoring the undesirable behavior until she responds in an appropriate manner. Around this age, kids will take whatever reaction they can get as a way to gain attention. They begin to understand that when I do A, mom and dad do B. As parents, we sometimes inadvertantly reinforce undesirable behaviors by interacting with our kids when they are using them. Good for you for starting to address this at such a young age!

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	4.06 (Good) \| May 2006 \| wombat68

Positive reinforcement

Good adivce. It's really important to encourage kids to talk rather than react with screaming or agression. When they get older, it is also about listening and giving them a voice in the home, that their opinion is appreciated and respected.

Wombat

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	4.37 (Good) \| May 2006 \| nomes

too true

"Use your words" that's we we tell them. and if other people don't understand, we explain to them "say each word one at a time". I witnessed a couple(friends of mine by the way) talking to their 3 1/2 year old in her language. I was horrified. They looked at me with smiles on their faces and interpreted to me the conversation they had just had. My surprised look I'm sure was still apparent. I think they thought I was amazed they could understand her and talk in her language. Not cute at all.

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