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kobesmummy by kobesmummy Talking(December 2006) (rank 148th)

Just reading a question, and i realised that depression is not really aware of! it is increasingly becoming a larger and larger problem, Slowly it is becoming recognised.

I was diagnosed with post-natal depression when Kobe was 4mths old. I would like to share my story with others. if i can at least help ONE person who thinks they may have depression, thats great!

before i was diagnosed i was very angry and bitter towards myself. Kobe was a brilliant baby (still is), But with my partner out of work, a new born and finance troubles i nearly went over the edge! I constatnly picked fights with my partner. the only time i was ok, was when i had Kobe in my arms.

I would cry for hours over, litterally, spilt milk. I would not talk to any one for days. i would totally retreat, or the opposite and lash out at everyone around me.

Thankfully i had a wonderful partner. He has battled depression for nearly 7years. He was watching me closely and realised the first signs of depression setting in. For him to convince me, we had a chat, and i took it too personally and lost it. i fell into a heap on the floor and cried, rocked my self for nearly an hour.

He came with me to the doctor and he was fantastic. Held my hand the entire time. The doctor was fantastic too. He explained that 1 in 5 women will get some type of depression either during the pregnancy or after the birth ( known as PRE and POST-natal depression) This rate is something like 3-in-1 for young and first time mums!

I was astounded that such a big problem could exist. THANKFULLY, people are realising depresion IS and Illness and are spreading the word.

MY TREATMENT- i was put onto some mild anti-depressants. which have worked wonders. It isnt a matter of just, "here, dose your self up on these love, you'll be fine". It has a lot to do with positive thinking, and seeing the good in everything.it wont work, unless you help it!

 Thanks to my DOCTOR, my medication and my wonderful partner ( he was also my counsellor) i am on the road to recovery and have never been so happy!

If you think you, or a friend/relative may be suffering from "depression" i strongly urge you to talk to some one. Its the best thing i ever did!

It wont get fixed over night, but it does get better everyday!

Bets of luck and thinking of you all

Jade
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smexyaye
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | smexyaye
Re: depression?
how do u know if you have depression i went through a stage every time i would get angry or sad i would hit my head against the hole the pain made the feeling go away but i started to stop wanting to do it i get the feeling to do it again but i stop my self.. does that mean i was depressed or i have it im not sure anymore..

ashley


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      Deborahsc2203
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | Deborahsc2203
Re: depression?
Hi ashley you are going though heaps at the moment ....what you could also do is go talk to your family doctor and also let him know whats going on at home ,, you need a whole lot of support honey xxxxx.. id say you are going through traumatic depression with whats going on at home ,, dont go hitting your head as all it will do later is give you a bigger headache ,,,,


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lexiw
September 2007 | lexiw
Re: depression?

Great article thanks for sharing

 Lexi xxx



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Arna
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | Arna
Re: depression?
I too have suffered PND, but mine lasted for a long time.  About 3 years, and I'm still trying to get over it.  Minti is helping.  I suffer from a mental illness anyway, and knew that PND was a certainty.  Didn't make it any easier!  Getting there now though, and am proud that I can be a good mother even though not all my marbles sit in the right holes.

My partner also suffers depression, and it cost us everything a few months ago.  Not our girls, thankfully, but everything else.  He doesn't work now and is studying instead which is much better for him.  And me!!!!

no one should feel as though they have to go through it alone and I am here for anyone who wants to chat about it.  Really, helping others helps to sort my own problems too.


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mumofsam
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | mumofsam
YOUNG SON WITH DEPRESSION
Hi there I dont't have depression myself but my husband suffers from it and most recently my 7 year old son has been diagnosed with it.. So I pretty much live with it everyday. It has been very comforting reading all these stories and it gives me hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel for the ones I love. Thankyou.


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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | llmunchkin
Depression
I am sure that a lot of women have related to what you went through.  How very lucky for you that you had a perceptive understanding partner to ensure you were diagnosed and therefore treated effectively.  Depression is still seen as a weakness by many, while it is a serious medical afflication, I hope that your story allows others to feel that they can seek help instead of muddling through and suffering needlessly.

Cheers to you!


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lightbee
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | lightbee
Ante-natal depression

I suffered from ante-natal (or pre-natal) depression through my  first pregnancy.  This was so badly understood, especially by those I was working with.  Post-natal depression is much more accepted these days.  Ante-natal depression is barely heard of (even though its not that uncommon) and the lack of understanding makes it so much harder to cope with.  The harder thing is that if you suffer depression when you're pregnant, there's a lot fewer options for dealing with it, e.g. drugs, because of how they could affect the baby.

The more people are aware of the better we can help each other deal with it.



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      kseers
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | kseers
Ante-natal depression
I have been diagnosed with Post Natal Depression and it was only when I underwent counselling for it that I learned  about preNatal depression and believe I had that too.  However I just thought it was all the hormones from pregnancy and I was overemotional due to that.  There needs to be more awareness.


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MadMel
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | MadMel
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off to the doc tomorrow. maybe its why im so angry and teary all the time.


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yj6875
4.22 (Good) | December 2006 | yj6875
Post natal depression

Hi ,

I too was diagnosed with post - natal depression and didn't really know or understand what I was going through or what was happening to me. I was stressed as my partner and I separated when my son was 2mths old. I was always lashing out at my partner and it would be over little silly things.

It wasn't until I took my son for  his baby clinic check up that they asked me to do a survey and then referred me to my family doctor. My doctor was fantastic, she explained everything to me, prescribed anti depressants which I take every day and things couldn't be better. I'm even getting along with my partner again and he's thinking of moving back into the house with me and the kids.



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      MadMel
December 2006 | MadMel
Post natal depression
That is fantastic! Thanks for sharing that story. Im glad you got help. Hope things work out ffor you hun!


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kseers
4.33 (Good) | December 2006 | kseers
Good advice
I had PND after number 2 - though I think I had it with number 1 & during the pregnancy for number 2....  I didn't recognise it as I showed different symptoms with it than I had during a bout of depression a few years ago.  I found that with help it improved straight away, but it took about 3-4 months before I really felt on top of things.  Hang in there - it does improve and support makes a huge difference.


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Kristen
4.83 (Excellent) | December 2006 | Kristen
Getting the support you need
Being a first-time mom is one of the hardest things I have ever done.  You were so lucky that your partner was able to see the signs and to identify that you needed extra help.  Life is so much easier when you have someone who can empathize with you and help you though the difficult times.  Thanks for sharing your story.


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blackwidowkate
4.92 (Excellent) | December 2006 | blackwidowkate
Depression
Hi,
I was diagnosed with depression also
What I still want to know is what is the difference between depression and post natal depression
Soon after reading what I have so far from so many people I will be able to tell my story
Thank you
Luv Deb


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      kobesmummy
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | kobesmummy
Depression

Thanks deb. there are so many different types of depression, but once discovered there is always help. you just need to takw that first step and realise you are not alone. IM glad i have inspired others to tell their stories. I told mine to help others. and i am so happy ive helped a few people! thanks

Jade



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      Arna
August 2007 | Arna
Re: Depression
Depression happens to anyone at anytime.  Post Natal Depression happens to parents (dad's suffer a form of it too)  after the birth of a baby and can last for many years.  PND is said to be caused by the fact that there is no more anticipation of your baby coming along, and we get a 'low' because it is all over.  This with hormones and everything else that comes along with a new baby can make the problems much worse.  Understanding is the best way to support someone.  Medications can help as can divertive therapies.  Eg writing!  That's what Minti is for.


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monyq83
4.61 (Excellent) | December 2006 | monyq83
I cant praise you enough for this peice of advice.
Ive been battling depression for a long time, however ive only recently been diagnosed, probably about 2yrs ago. You dont realise it when it first sets in, but when others around you do, it can be a make or break situation. Kobesmummy, you are one of the most luckiest girls I have seen in a long time. Your partner is made of pure gold and you really are blessed to have him. Alot of men would just run from a (no offense) crazy woman with depression, but yours stood by you every step of the way. He is truly worth his weight in gold. For everyone else out there (and I know theres alot of you) who are battling this horrible illness, YOU CAN GET HELP. It wont be easy coming to terms with it, but believe me, once you do you will wonder what took you so long to make that appointment with your doctor! Just remember, even in the darkest hour, you can always find a light. Love MonyQ


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      kobesmummy
4.22 (Good) | December 2006 | kobesmummy
I cant praise you enough for this peice of advice.

thanks very much. yes i am very lucky to have my partner. unfortunately not so many people are lucky. i really do appreciate all the feedback ive gotten.  When i was first diagnosed i thought i was the only person to have it. You then realise it IS very common and there is help available. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

thanks again jade

 



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      Arna
August 2007 | Arna
Re: I cant praise you enough for this peice of advice.
Mine too, but he has a psychology background.  He just hides when I'm in a bad mood and I find a way to fix it!  When I'm calmer, we talk about it and then I write the rest of it out!


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franni
4.47 (Good) | December 2006 | franni
depression

i have depression and this advice really helped me thanks for sharing it.

love francine



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      kobesmummy
4.55 (Excellent) | December 2006 | kobesmummy
depression
well my job is done! Francine, im glad i was able to help you with my own experience. If you would like any more info or help, just email me! i'll be more then happy to help if i can!


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MumKim
4.39 (Good) | December 2006 | MumKim
Glad you are on the road to recovery
Glad you are on the road to recovery. It is a difficult topic to talk about, but it is important and helpful to talk about it. Great advice.
Many other Minti Mums (and possibly a few Dads) are battling the old depression monster. There is a group on Minti called Mental Health Support.
For people to support each other and share their stories.


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ssedgar
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | ssedgar
depression

unfortunately depression is not always talked about either, You may feel ashamed with your feelings etc, but it is a big problem and needs the right hlep.

Great advice



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jenlemen
4.35 (Good) | December 2006 | jenlemen
thank you so much for telling your story
i experienced a lot of depression following the birth of my second child, and it was very hard for me to deal with it.  i think the more women tell their stories, the more likely it is that people will reach out for the help they need.   it's very inspiring to see how valuable your partner was to you at this time.  it really does take another caring human being to help us get through.


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