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Parental Rights. |
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by lexiw  (December 2006) (rank 9th) |
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I hear so often that one parent will not LET the other parent see the children involved. This is ridiculous.
Firstly Grow up and act your age. Unless there is a very good reason why the parent should be kept away ie abuse Then every child needs contact with
both parents. I wonder if these parents know how it feels for their children to be kept in the middle all the time. I know too many mothers who stop the father from seeing their children because they are hurting over the break up. Why should the adult situation have anymore effect on the children than it has to. I say if there is no GOOD reason why then the parent with custody is selfish and not doing what is in the best interest of the children.
I went through a break up after six years of physical and emotional abuse to me but he has never physically harmed his daughters. I hate him with a passion and if I had my way the girls would not see him at all because of the emotional abuse BUT they want to see him whenever they can which isn't often. I spend half my time trying to get him to spend regular time with them. I am talking to a brick wall though.
My point is I still try because I have to I could go to a court and have him shut out of their lives completely but they don't want that so I respect their wishes even though it kills me inside. So please custodial parents think of the child above all else before stopping visitations.
Secondly to non-custodial parents what are you doing. For those of you who are not being allowed to see your children why are you not in court. I think that unless a court has told you that your children are off limits then you should do everything in your power to see your children. My cousin dosn't get to see his son but he hasn't been to court either I don't understand this he says it is because he dosn't want the hassles that it would bring, (he has a new girlfriend and baby on the way) Yes it is a lot of work going through the courts to be able to see your kids and yes some exs can be really nasty and it is hard to deal with that but If you don't at least try then you are not thinking of what is best for the children. The children should have the benefit of both parents to talk to even if the ideas are different let the child make up its own mind on what to believe . If you don't do anything then the child is only getting one half of the love and attention that they should.
So if you really care about your kids PLEASE do what is right for them in a break up not what is right for you.
