Children Who See Too Much

I never thought I would one day be writing advice about Domestic Violence.

I used to think my marriage was okay, yes I used to have to run and answer the phone if it rang in case it was my ex, I didn't go to work but that was nice he cared that much about me he wanted me home and safe, I would have to wear outfits he chose for me I would have to not question anything he did but be prepared to validate why the supermarket took 15 minutes longer than the week before, but all those things are normal in a marriage aren't they????

Anyway it was not until I started asking that question that I realised that it wasn't love in his eyes when he looked at me it was a stamp of ownership and so the rows started.....

My poor children even now will come out with things like Mummy why did Daddy shout at you until you were sick, why did he push you, why did he make you cry then call you names and leave etc etc Where is the innocence of my children gone now.

My youngest who has a fascination with Dr Who recently said he wishes he had a tardis so he could take me back in time, I held my breath dreading what was coming next and he totally floored me, he said it was so he could take me in time so that I never met his dad but still had my four children!!

So often we hear people say that they are going to stay in the marriage for the sake of the children, if you are in a marriage where you know something is not right you are not helping your children at all, they are hurting, they are confused and they are scared.

So for all those children who see too much, lets start protecting them. Someone has to.