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How to avoid making your toddler jealous when breastfeeding

(December 2006) (rank 2nd)

When you come home from hospital with your brand new baby you feel so proud and you want everything to go smoothly

Those of us fortunate enough to be able to breastfeed need to be aware that if we have an older child too they may have a

problem with this.

They can get jealous and feel pushed away, leading to jealousy and fears and on to resentment of the baby having Mummy to themselves.

What Can We do,

I used to make a point of including my toddler at babys feed times.

Whenever it was Babys feeding time I used to get comfortable, get my toddler to get a book, arrange the cushions together, sit comfortably (obviously easier if babys isn't screaming for their feed at this point!) and my toddler used to feel that this was our special time.

Mummy could stop baby crying and give the toddler one to one time, the older child hardly noticed that I was feeding the baby, they were too busy enjoying the fact that Mummy was sitting down and making time for them.

It wasn't long at all before as soon as baby started waking they would be the one getting all the cushions ready for me to just relax, sit down and bond with them both at the same time.

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	July 4th \| cazza

Re: How to avoid making your toddler jealous when breastfeeding

Great advice and i always used to get brodie to help when i fed caitlyn, like ask him to get mummy a nappy ready for bub or her blankie,,etc.. When chloe came along it was the same, but had too little helpers,...

xx cazza

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	February 2008 \| emmie

Re: How to avoid making your toddler jealous when breastfeeding

Great advice

Thanks for sharing

Emz

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| Izzy

Re: How to avoid making your toddler jealous when breastfeeding

sounds great. A toddler can definitely feel left during breastfeeding. Fortunatley, I didn't have much a problem with this. I breastfeed the twins on the couch and my son just sits with me and enjoys the close contact (he ends up putting a hand inside my shirt sleeve or under my leg just for the contact). Also, thanks to my twins breastfeeding pillow, I'm able to have 2 free hands as well, for times when my son wants me to read him a book.

But before I had the twins, I heard a mom use a special video to be watched only when mommy is breastfeeding the baby. That way the time is a special one for the big bro/sis too.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| franni

thanks

im going to try this im a bit worried about breastfeeding new bubs if she will get jealous i couldnt breastfeed her so this will be my forst time to try it properly.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| nell18-3

thanks

I hope it works out for you.
Breastfeeding is supposed to be natural and effortless for a mother, but we all know different

All the best
xx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2006 \| mandymum3

great stuff

My two youngest are 15 months apart and our toddler tried really hard to have a suck too, i don't know if she remembered (stopped feeding her at 11 months) or just wanted what baby had. I ended up giving in and expressing a little in a cup and she never asked again!!! Obusliy it doesn't taste good once you have been weened

. What a great idea though to take the toddlers mind off the fact your feeding baby.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| nell18-3

great stuff

That is so funny and so effective. She probably ended up feeling sorry for the baby being forced into drinking it.
Once they get that sweet tooth nothing is ever the same again is it

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2006 \| Rachall

Sounds good

I am going to try it as number two is due in about 8 weeks and my toddler will be 21 months old.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| nell18-3

Sounds good

I hope that all goes well for you
xx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2006 \| vikkianderson

How to avoid making your toddler jealous

Will definitely be giving this a try. My 2 year old is already very jealous of his 8 year old sister so I can only imagine how is gonna be with a new bubba. Great advice!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| nell18-3

How to avoid making your toddler jealous

It works well as a jealousy preventative than getting frustrated as the feeding is n;t going well and your toddler needs you too

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2006 \| ssedgar

well said

It is so hard when you have a new baby not to leave your toddler out, i did my best at making Zac feel special when Jacob was born, i would get him to help me he would get the nappies ready and the bottles ready. he would even sit with Jacob and give him a bottle from time to time it was a special time for all of us

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| nell18-3

well said

I used to do that too.
I think they like to take that as their responsibility
Helps them feel included too
xx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2006 \| exquisite-flower

Lovely Tip

I think I shall remember this one for sure. It is a great idea. Regardless of the age of the older child I tink there would be ways to make it work.
Peace
EF.x

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| nell18-3

Lovely Tip

To me it means the older child is not left feeling threatened by a new baby taking his mums attention away from them.
xx

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