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This is a sad story with a good ending and heavy thoughts for families who separate for whatever the reason.
My fiancee and i got together just over 3yrs ago(Dec 2003) and she had 2 boys then aged 3 and 5. The boys were on a week on and
week off basis between their mother and father of which the father never took much notice of the boys and there was always some one else looking after them when it was his turn to have them. When he was told that we would be moving to Sydney we thought all was cool, so we made all the arrangements to move and i got a job in the first couple of days of looking for work and we got a house within a week.
We had hired a truck for the move and got it all loaded and sent it on its way. Then the time came for us to pick up my fiancees boys from their father, upon arrival at his house to get the boys, he had sent them off with the grandmother (unknown to us at the time) and would not tell us where the boys were. Police were called and they told us that there was nothing that neither the police or us could do because there were no court papers and the father was laughing at us behind the officers backs. To him the world is only as big as Albury/Wodonga and he didn't want the boys mum to leave Albury or start a new life. The officers were disgusted at the fact that he was using the boys as a weapon to get what he wanted.
The battle was started in Court and almost 12 months had passed by the time the case was fully heard and the decision was given that he was given residency of the boys. By that time the boys had what the courts called "a bond" with his family and we had to travel 536Km each way every fortnight for my fiancees visitation so this effectively was taking things off my son because of the travel cost and he was laughing at the fact that he hardly had to travel. Then October school holidays this year (2006) we went to Yass for an arranged pick up so that the boys could come up to Sydney with us for the school holidays, We got back to Sydney and upon returning home from a fire call, the father had rang and told us that we had the boys full-time. This was great news for us both so we started to get the paperwork going at court at the fathers request, then he dropped the bombshell and told us that he never had any intention of signing it. So my fiancee was very upset and confused about what to do as we also have a 13 month old son of our own. The Father of the two boys says that we should "do it for the boys"(which has become his favorite saying or "think of the boys and not yourself") and forget the courts and ignore the court orders that are in place, BUT the problem is we cant force him to sign the papers and if one of his family get their nose out of joint, they could ring the police and say that she kidnapped them and then we would have to prove that she didn't.
The worst part of this is that the father didnt even tell the boys that they were coming here to live until they were here and in my opinion he wasnt thinking of the boys even though they wanted to live with us for a long time and he wouldnt let them. my thoughts are that the boys may be feeling unwanted or even dumped.
My only advise is for the ladies to know their partners and hopefully never get into this situation
(December 2006) (
Lexi xxx
