No More Guilt

HI THERE AGAIN WELL THIS A REAL COMPLEX SITUATION WELL I WAS IN ANOTHER RELTIONSHIP BEFORE I MET MY MAN NOW AND SEE I WAS WORKING LONG HOURS AND I WAS TRYING TO PUT MY SON INTO A DAYCARE BUT THEY X KEPT TAKING HIM OUT I DIDNT MIND SO

MUCH -MY SAON AGE 4AND HALF CAME TO ME AND MY NEW PARTNER AND SAID MY X TOUCH MY SON UP -NOW HE SEES A SOCIAL WORKER AND TEACHERS SPECIALIST SOON HE WILL SEE THE SEXUAL ASSUALT UNIT TO DEAL WITH THAT SORT OF STUFF ALSO HES BEEN TO THE CHILDREN HOSPITAL AS HES GOT ADHD AND LEARNING PROBLEMS BUT THE QUESTIONS I AM ALWAYS SAYIN WHY DIDNT I NOTICE IT WHY DIDNT I STOP SEEING THIS MAN AS HE WAS AN ALHOLIC AND MENATALLY ABUSIVE TO ME AND HE USED TO GET ANGRY WITH MY SON ALOT..I AM SO ANGRY AT MYSELF AND EVERYTIME I SEE MY SOON AS HE LIVES IN BUNBURY WITH DAD I FEEL SO HORRIBLE LIKE HOLDING SO MUCH GUILT AND I FEEL SO ANGRY..ITS GOT TO THE POINT I WONT LET ANYONE HAVE MY DAUGHTER AS I AM SO WORRIED ON WHAT MIGHT GO ON..BUT THE BIG QUESTION WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP HIM AS THIS WILLSCARE HIM FOREVER AS I KNOW AS THIS HAPPENED TO ME TOO AS A CHILD?????I WOULD LOVE ADVICE ANYONE WITH CHILDREN WITH ADHD AND LEARNING PROBLEMS COULD U GIVE ONTIPS ON THAT TOO AS U SEE WE ARE DOING AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE..WE HAVE GOT THE POLICE INVILVED THEY ARE TRYING TO TRACE HIM MY X ITS HARD HEY???PLEASE GOOD ADVICE WOULD BE APRRECIATED KIND REGARDS TRACEY

Firstly stop feeling guilty,whats done is done.....You need to concentrate on helping your son.I just published an article on add/adhd,entitled ADD/ADHD IS IT REAL OR BAD PARENTING.There are some great web sites I have added so they may help you with that part of your question.In regard to the abuse your son suffered,the relevant measures are being taken as stated above,I think you yourself need some help as well.You will be more help to your son when you are healed too.Just keep loving him and learning how to cope with his problems this will be the best help you can give him.

The right steps are already being put into place so now look after you......We cannot keep our children in a glass bubble,if you take all the necessary precautions with your daughter she should be fine all we can do is our best.It sounds like you have had a tough life and have done the best you could with what you had at the time. The time for self blame and guilt  is over,put that energy into healing yourself and helping your children.You sound a very loving and caring Mum that has just been dealt a few hard knocks in life.I think if you take all the help you can get off the relevant departments above  and just support and love your children,your situation will start it's healing process.Hope I have eased your burden a tad regards Merle