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No More Guilt

Anonymous Author (December 2006)
HI THERE AGAIN WELL THIS A REAL COMPLEX SITUATION WELL I WAS IN ANOTHER RELTIONSHIP BEFORE I MET MY MAN NOW AND SEE I WAS WORKING LONG HOURS AND I WAS TRYING TO PUT MY SON INTO A DAYCARE BUT THEY X KEPT TAKING HIM OUT I DIDNT MIND SO
MUCH -MY SAON AGE 4AND HALF CAME TO ME AND MY NEW PARTNER AND SAID MY X TOUCH MY SON UP -NOW HE SEES A SOCIAL WORKER AND TEACHERS SPECIALIST SOON HE WILL SEE THE SEXUAL ASSUALT UNIT TO DEAL WITH THAT SORT OF STUFF ALSO HES BEEN TO THE CHILDREN HOSPITAL AS HES GOT ADHD AND LEARNING PROBLEMS BUT THE QUESTIONS I AM ALWAYS SAYIN WHY DIDNT I NOTICE IT WHY DIDNT I STOP SEEING THIS MAN AS HE WAS AN ALHOLIC AND MENATALLY ABUSIVE TO ME AND HE USED TO GET ANGRY WITH MY SON ALOT..I AM SO ANGRY AT MYSELF AND EVERYTIME I SEE MY SOON AS HE LIVES IN BUNBURY WITH DAD I FEEL SO HORRIBLE LIKE HOLDING SO MUCH GUILT AND I FEEL SO ANGRY..ITS GOT TO THE POINT I WONT LET ANYONE HAVE MY DAUGHTER AS I AM SO WORRIED ON WHAT MIGHT GO ON..BUT THE BIG QUESTION WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP HIM AS THIS WILLSCARE HIM FOREVER AS I KNOW AS THIS HAPPENED TO ME TOO AS A CHILD?????I WOULD LOVE ADVICE ANYONE WITH CHILDREN WITH ADHD AND LEARNING PROBLEMS COULD U GIVE ONTIPS ON THAT TOO AS U SEE WE ARE DOING AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE..WE HAVE GOT THE POLICE INVILVED THEY ARE TRYING TO TRACE HIM MY X ITS HARD HEY???PLEASE GOOD ADVICE WOULD BE APRRECIATED KIND REGARDS TRACEY

Firstly stop feeling guilty,whats done is done.....You need to concentrate on helping your son.I just published an article on add/adhd,entitled ADD/ADHD IS IT REAL OR BAD PARENTING.There are some great web sites I have added so they may help you with that part of your question.In regard to the abuse your son suffered,the relevant measures are being taken as stated above,I think you yourself need some help as well.You will be more help to your son when you are healed too.Just keep loving him and learning how to cope with his problems this will be the best help you can give him.

The right steps are already being put into place so now look after you......We cannot keep our children in a glass bubble,if you take all the necessary precautions with your daughter she should be fine all we can do is our best.It sounds like you have had a tough life and have done the best you could with what you had at the time. The time for self blame and guilt  is over,put that energy into healing yourself and helping your children.You sound a very loving and caring Mum that has just been dealt a few hard knocks in life.I think if you take all the help you can get off the relevant departments above  and just support and love your children,your situation will start it's healing process.Hope I have eased your burden a tad regards Merle
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emmie
September 2007 | emmie
Re: No More Guilt

brilliant advice cheers

emz



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breannababy
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | breannababy
I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW
I am sorry for the letter format........i use bold type cause i am having trouble with my eyes(old age) I don't usually make this mistake,see other advice......... I pressed wrong buttons then it seemed to get stuck there???????? so sorry regards Merle


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      ClayCook
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | ClayCook
RE: Formating
hope you don't mind - i just reformatted it for you
hope it helps the votes


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           breannababy
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | breannababy
RE: Formating
Thankyou us old dears are a worry sometime thanks merel


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emmysmum
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | emmysmum
Hard to follow
Hey hun!

I don't want to hurt your feelings but i really do have to agree with clay cook here, It is hard to write advice in different format though. It took me ten minutes to switch from one text to another.

But overall it was good!


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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | trixie30
Hard to follow
thanks for your advice i am new to all this its good to get feedback to do it abit thanks heaps tracey


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ClayCook
4.38 (Good) | December 2006 | ClayCook
little hard to read
Hi breannababy
Just wanted to let you know that your article above is a little hard to read as it is all in bold and in italics.
To get better votes I would suggest the following...
  1. editing your advice
  2. making just the question in italics (not bold)
  3. have a line break or two between the question and your answer
  4. having your answer not in italics or bold.
Hope this helps and doesn't offend - just want to see your advice get read more often and receive higher votes.


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trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | trixie30
NO MORE GUILY
THANKS HEAPS YOU MADE GOOD ADVICE I WILL FOLLOW THROUGH  THANKS AGAIN


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