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Think Before Speaking |
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by gwennie  (December 2006) (rank 500+) |
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As women we tend to shoot from the hip sometimes before thinking. We need to learn to stop and think before we speak. An example of this: I came across a womens comment here regarding child birth and why women are willing to accept their deliveries and not gather
all the information needed.
My answer to this is that there are doctors out there who have trained and also nurses. You can have the best birthing plan organised but things can go wrong. Yes child birth is the most natural thing a woman can do, but it doesn't come easy. Birth is bringing life and Labour means hard work. Put the 2 together and you are bringing a child into the world through hard work. It is every womens right to choose how they go about their birth whether it be all natural, induced, pain relief, or a caesar. The women choose. No other person has the right to judge that person for the decisions they make, and if they choose to not examine all their options and leave their birth in the doctors and nurses hands then that is also their right.
We as women tend to inflict our opinions and judgements onto others without really thinking about the impact we are having. If we are asked for advice then so be it, but if we are not we should just butt out and try and support the decisions our friends, relatives etc choose.
I have given birth 6 times, my first was a normal 5 days over 14 hour labor, my second was 11 days over and induced. All the others were induced and the last was a caesar. If I was to go back and have another child I would go for a caesar. This would be a combination of elective but also my doctors recommendation. This is my right to choose, and mine alone, with the help and recommendation from my Doctor. I choose to listen to the experts who know more than me and confere with him. I do not feel any less a women because I choose to follow the experts advice and if something goes wrong who better than to decide the right thing for you than the experts who are trained to do this exact job.
No one else has the right to say what I can and can't do.
In closing I suggest for us as women to consider other peoples feelings before we shoot off at the hip. Ask yourself, Were we asked for the advce we are about to give or are we just passing on our opinions and expecting the other person to do what I say?
Regards
Gwennie
