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Mothers and Grandmothers

Marlena by Marlena Young Parent(December 2006) (rank 12th)

 

I got this e-mail and I want to share it with you all.

 Mothers and Grandmothers



      After 21 years of marriage, My wife wanted me to take  another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "

I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you."  The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.  That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. "What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My Mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.  "I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you, and then responded, "Just the two of us."She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much." That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.  When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with hercoat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last Wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an Angel.  "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car.  "They can't wait to hear about our meeting.  "We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print.  Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.  "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.  During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation--nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said,"I'll
go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.  "How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home.  "Very nice; much more so than I could have imagined," I answered. A few days later, my mother died of a massive h art attack. It happened sosuddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.  Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."  At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."  

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby ... Somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is history.

Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct ... Somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.

Somebody said being a mother is boring ...Somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.

Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their voices ... Somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.

Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother ... Somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math.

Somebody said you can't love the third child as much as you love the first ...Somebody doesn't have three children.

Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books ... Somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery...Somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten ... or on a plane headed for military "boot camp."

Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back ... Somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married...Somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home...Somebody never had grandchildren.

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her...Somebody isn't a mother.

I guess my advice to you is to Charish the people you love and that are dearest to you because you dont know how long you will have them for. 

"Ultimately, the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or friendship, is conversation."

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emmie
January 2008 | emmie
Re: Mothers and Grandmothers

that is a great article

thanks for sharing

Emz



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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | cazza
mothers and grandmothers
thanyou for a moving thought, i only wish that my mum and foster mum could read this and understand what it truly means tpo be amum, as they dont see me or my children due to them both not having the motherly instinct.Im hope that i will be able to be able to provide all of your thoughts on too my children.Merry christmas to you all.


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breannababy
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | breannababy
Lovely
I hope Breanna loves me That much when she's all growed up.Lovely read


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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | nell18-3
Mothers and Grandmothers
Thank you for posting that, it was lovely and I think a timely reminder to us all who are fortunate enough to still have our mothers, that being a parent doesn't stop us being a daughter/son. My Mum has been an absolute angel to me this last year especially, I turned up at her house the other day with a random bouquet of flowers that I had just felt on the spur to take over to her, you would have thought I had given her the world.
Lots of you aren't lucky enough to know a real mothers love, due to losing them in life or they never had the maternal instinct in the first place, so lets not those of us who do still have a mum that loves us lets show them how much we appreciate it and not take their love for granted. Its a cheap price to pay cos my Mum is thrilled with a hug and I Love You Mum


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cookclan
4.14 (Good) | December 2006 | cookclan
whos sombody any way hehe
I dont think that somebody has any kids hehe That was excellent and bought a tear to my eye. Thank you.


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MumKim
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | MumKim
I know what I am going to do in New Zealand in March
In March we are going to NZ to take baby home to meet my husbands mother. I think I will have to arrange things so he can take her out for dinner, just the two of them.
My ex- husbands mother lived on the other side of the country and whenever she was here or we were there I always insisted that he get to spend some time with her without me or anyone else around.
My new mother in law is such a busy woman (runs her own business and is single handedly bringing up 2 of her grandsons) that trying to organise this will be difficult but I will definitely try.
Guess I should take my own mother out to dinner too sometime. Usually when we are in Perth we all go out to dinner - hubby, brother and his family and mum and I. Not usually just Mum and I.


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      Marlena
December 2006 | Marlena
I know what I am going to do in New Zealand in March
I know you never think to do it that way.  I know when it is just me and my son out for dinner (even at teh McDonoalds) I enjoy my alone time with him so much even if we are alone all the time. 


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violeta
4.17 (Good) | December 2006 | violeta
what a lovely story
oh stop it you just made me cry


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