Bringing a new baby home is one of the most special times to experience and I think this should be done in as good as surroundings as possible. The babies first experience of home should be one of quiet and contentment. This is not a time to be stressed. Yes

your baby will cry and yes you will be very tired but babies cry for a reason. New borns are usually hungary, wet or windy. If those basics are taken care of then things should go pretty smoothly.

The nappy was always the first thing that I checked because that way if they do dose of unexpectedly you are not disturbing them to change the nappy. If you are using cloth nappies then make sure you have a bucket ready for all wet nappies and I had a seperate bucket for stinky ones (after they were rinsed).  I found it hard to keep up with cloth nappies with my first because I was under a lot of stress (abusive relationship) so I changed to disposables when she was about six months old. I think you have to do what is best for you to cut down the stress for you and baby and for me one way was to use disposables. Some people can keep on top of this and I really wish I could have.

Next thing is hungary This is what most babies want in the first few weeks more than anything. My son just wanted to feed constantly. At first I breast fed him I really wanted to feed him myself but he ended up not getting enough from me and I had to change him to formula. Every child is different I breast fed my eldest until she was eighteen months but my second weened herself off at two and a half months and Zack just wasn't getting enough. I know with the younger two I felt like I had failed somehow because I wasn't able to breastfeed them but it is better to give the baby what they need. I though that I would lose the bond with my children because I wasn't breastfeeding but I wasn't I still held them close and I still cuddled and enjoyed them. I had people tell me I was a bad mother because I was bottle feeding my baby and I would tell them firstly that it is none of their business and secondly I would prefer to bottle feed my child rather than have them starve. Whichever you have to do with your baby just remember that it dosn't matter what people say you just do what is best for your baby.

Now this is the thing that I found most stressful dewinding a little baby. Zack was really bad with wind and used to cry alot because of it in the first few weeks. The best thing I found was what a midwife at the hospital showed me and that was to hold the baby securely and swing them up and then down fairly quickly but not quickly enough so that they are sick. This worked for Zack more often than not and always burbing him after a bottle also helped. Having a windy baby can be very upsetting but you have to remeber that the more you stress the more upset the baby gets because they can sense everything that you are feeling.