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This goes out to all the parents of children who have become victims to sexual assault.
I don't want you to blame yourselves as sometimes these perverts are clever. As my own experience will tell :
I grew up in a pub, mum ran it while dad worked
on a tomato farm. My eldest sister had recently married which left my older brothers who were 19 & 15 plus my younger brother who was 4. My fathers nephew came to stay in our town at my Nana's house. He was always over at the pub though. He used to touch me up in front of my brothers in such a way it didn't look odd, I was told it was our game & if I told anyone we wouldn't be allowed to play it anymore. So being young with not many friends I thought it was great to have someone to play with. There was a time I was laying on the couch in the lounge room he was behind me & I felt his penis in between my butt cheeks, even to this day I can still smell him & know exactly how that felt. This is the part that is not Fair, my hubby came up behind me and playfully grabbed me from behind and placed his penis there instead of me getting frisky I went the opposite. Yelling & abusing him for doing that when he literally forgot & apologized immensely but the damage was done the mood was definitely
GONE. This should not have happened if it wasn't for this pervert.
The way he got found out was my younger brother & I went down the street for some lollies & he came back before me as *Smith grabbed me & pulled me behind the gates. I don't know how long we were there but when I went back inside dad asked me where I had been so I told him I was with Smith. Dad then asked me what I was doing. I don't remember what I said to him but apparently he went upstairs saw mum said nothing to her grabbed his car keys went around to Nana's grabbed Smith & off to the Police station they walked. Dad did nothing to him as mum said if I had told her, she would have killed him & all my father did was go pale? I remember having 2 lady police officers examine me & put her hand between my legs.
When Smiths court case was heard my 15 year old brother was at the hearing for a school project & ended up by walking out before it started. What Smith got was put in a home for boys but as he was 17 1/12 when it was adjourned he only spent 6 months in there. I've got the life sentence what has he got? A wife & 2 beautiful girls, that's justice for you.
My mother has later told me that there was a time I was sitting on Smiths knee & mum told him I was too big to be sitting on his knee & when she tried to pull me off he wouldn't let her so she didn't push it, She is forever regretting the fact that she didn't pull me off him.
This is where I want you all to know there really is nothing you could have done to prevent things like this happening. Even after all this i was again played with by a man who lives in that town & still does. I never said anything to anyone as I thought they might of thought I was just saying it to get more attention so instead I stayed away from his shop. When I did tell mum 20 years later she told me I should have told her as there was a lot of girls he did this to but no one wanted to come forward because of his loyal mother & her dedication to Guide Dogs. She has since passed but all the girls are grow up & left town.
Please don't beat yourself up about it its not worth it, the best thing to do is talk about it to your child when they are ready they will eventually come out of their shell. I don't blame my mother or father for what happened. I blame Smith for he knew better I hope by reading this it will help others to be even more watchful but remember you can be blind with your eyes wide open 
(January 2007) (
