Labour, it is your choice

my husband and i have been talking lately about having another baby, it got me thinking to my labour. i am usually a very strong person as to when it comes to choices and rules that i set. however before i went into labour i said to all family and

anyway it turned out that when i went into labour, mum, and marks mum jenny showed up, i thought ok they will just say good luck and go, well they stayed and stayed, they stayed over night, i was annoyed as they new my wishes and ignored them, then my best friend showed up, by this time i was ready to blow as it was just before they were about to break my waters i was in pain and the only person i wanted around was mark and instead i had everyone else circling around me. anyway after they broke my waters finally i had had enough i went from 3 cms to 9 cm in a hour i was in pain and had everyone in the room with me. mark finally siad ok eveyone its time to go, they then waited out in the courtyard where they could hear everything, and i mean everything, i even had my friend trying to peer in the window to see if she could see anything, so through the whole 2 and 1/2 hours of pushing i felt uncomfortable, finally sienna came into the world we had her for only ten minutes and everyone came barging in again, it made me really hesitant to seeing them when they came back into visit as i was abit annoyed, from the whole situation. ( id do love my family and friends alot still lol)

anyway what i am trying to say is make sure you have the birth you want if you want all your family and close friends there have them there, if not make sure you make it clear to them that this is what you want and this is how you are having it, i told mark that it is up to him to make sure he lets everyone know when i am in labour next time that this is what i want and this is the way i am going to have it

labour is a very personal thing, just remember you are allowed to be selfish in this situation, it is your right and noone elses to tell people how it is going to be and thats it.

 i just don't want people to have to go through the same thing i did, i don't regret anything but next time i will be standing my ground.

hint -  write everything down and give it to your partner/support person when you are in labour, about how you want things to go what you want done and how you want to go about it.

hope this advice helps a few people out of a sticky situation

Britt xx