Kids and drugs part 2

it is really nice to be able to talk to other people about my son in remand. I still don't know really how bad a mess he has got himself in. I've never had a love one in the jail system before and it breaks my heart.

The info i have at the monent is he was 1 of 20 people arrested may 2006 and has been in remand since then. they say he was trafficing drugs, his stupid father thinks that brendon being one off the top people is cool, but for me, i'm sad, disappointed and really just in shock that when i sent him at 14yrs to live with his dads parents ( as he always scared me with his temper, but as he got bigger and taller, i got scared more) i had to think of the other 3 kids i have all from the same stupid father.  Brendon has always been a handful, but nothing prepared me for this heart ache.

in sept 2005 i flew him over to us to help him with his drug problem( he had texted me asking for help). he had a job in my brothers shop, was going to get car and fork licence. was going to use one of the shops cars. But he decided his friends ( so called friends, i found out later all drugies.) in victoria were where he wanted to be. I do know i did the best i could for him. but it still really hurts. while he has been in remand his had 4 different jobs inside, lost them all for fighting. and of recent lost his contact visit, ( had non contact visit) instead. that up set his grandparents who drove 1.5 hrs each way to see him. well i do feel better that i have written it down. my family and friends have been great and they are hurting too. but as his mum i feel guilty that i could have done something better. cheers jenny

Thank you for being so open and honest.  Sharing what happens in life can sometimes be hard but this is invaluable advice (to me anyhow) because it is real, it includes your experience and the reasons why.  So often people are judged wrongly and not just accepted for making a bad choice and helped through it.  I hope that this advice will open the eyes of people that a degree of understanding will be reached and more support offered to those who are struggling with such addictions.

All that we do is based on how we perceive life and the people and situations around us.  I am glad that you got yourself sorted and that you are able to share with us from real life.  It is so much easier to understand than just facts. 
Peace
EF.x 

You know I feel so sad for adults who have suffered from abusive parenting.I was so abused(not molested)by my Father,I did not get into drugs as I was not allowed to have much of a social life.I went to boarding school when I was 15 and I just never really opted for drugs,alcohol was a different story though.I think we as the survivors of parental abuse need to make such a concentrated effort to break the abuse cycle.It is so easy for abusee's to perpetuate the abuse circle in going round and through generations.It may sound an easy thing to do,however I find myself  pulling me up for saying things to my kids in the same tone or phrase that my Father would have done.At the end of the day we need to love and guide our kids to the best of our ability which includes fighting any demons we may have picked up through our lives for whatever reasons.Lexiw you are doing this everyday and I commend you whole heartedly for your efforts well done and top article regards Merle

Seriously, you are....

You have overcome a great deal in your life and you can only be commended for it....Well done and good advice....

Hey, great piece of advice. I believe in having an open family and would like to think we have raised our son in a way that when he gets to that age he will be able to share his problems with us. I also think parents should bring the drug talk into play once their children start to hit puberty along with the sex talk.