Label Actions Not Children

We as parents are the role models to our children so it is especially important to watch what we say.

One way that we can harm or help our children immensely is by labelling.  It is a good habit to label the action of your child and not the

To explain what I mean by labelling the action, not the child, I have included a few examples.

 LABELLING THE CHILD                                                          LABELLING THE ACTION

Your a Naughty Boy                                                                That was a naughty thing to do

Your Selfish                                                                           That was a selfish thing to do

Your a Nasty Person                                                                That was a nasty comment

Children will take on board without you realising it the labels, we as parents, put on them.  More so than the labels placed on them by other people.  We may not be able to stop other people from labelling our child but by not labelling our children ourselves, their self esteem will be more intact to be able to cope with the labels place on them by other people.

Our children will  be able to let the comments from people outside the family, especially other children they mix with, go straight over their heads rather than taking them on board if we teach our children that it is their actions that need correcting, not themselves as a person. 

It is imperative that our children know, that no matter what they do, they are still very lovable human beings.