Kids and drugs part 4

I also did similar stupid things when I was in high school. I dread to think of what my child may get up to when she enters high school. I only hope that she will be open and honest with me, I will probably let her have a drink or 2 every now & then when she gets a bit older in a contolled environment, at least that way she may be more prepared to handle things in a social scene with her peers in the future. Obviously this is a controversial topic...

Suzi

Mwah I think taking away the thrill of doing something wrong is a step in the right direction.....
Mwah
Angie

i think its so wrong to let a child thats under 16 drink, even a zip.

My parents let my brothers and I have small sips of beer from about 13years onward. We never went out in secret to have a drink and to this day only indulge on special occassions. My friends that came from more strict families were experimenting with alcohol and other drugs without their parents knowledge, and put themselves in very dangerous situations on a regular basis. It is better to be open and honest with our kids if we expect the same from them. No point pretending we didn't want to try it when we were teenagers!

it is really nice to be able to talk to other people about my son in remand. I still don't know really how bad a mess he has got himself in. I've never had a love one in the jail system before and it breaks my heart.

The info i have at the monent is he was 1 of 20 people arrested may 2006 and has been in remand since then. they say he was trafficing drugs, his stupid father thinks that brendon being one off the top people is cool, but for me, i'm sad, disappointed and really just in shock that when i sent him at 14yrs to live with his dads parents ( as he always scared me with his temper, but as he got bigger and taller, i got scared more) i had to think of the other 3 kids i have all from the same stupid father.  Brendon has always been a handful, but nothing prepared me for this heart ache.

in sept 2005 i flew him over to us to help him with his drug problem( he had texted me asking for help). he had a job in my brothers shop, was going to get car and fork licence. was going to use one of the shops cars. But he decided his friends ( so called friends, i found out later all drugies.) in victoria were where he wanted to be. I do know i did the best i could for him. but it still really hurts. while he has been in remand his had 4 different jobs inside, lost them all for fighting. and of recent lost his contact visit, ( had non contact visit) instead. that up set his grandparents who drove 1.5 hrs each way to see him. well i do feel better that i have written it down. my family and friends have been great and they are hurting too. but as his mum i feel guilty that i could have done something better. cheers jenny

Sometimes removing the mystery and giving permission for something that is normally considered taboo will result in little interest in that subject. I hope that it works for you Lexi.  It is a tough call and you can never guess the outcome, just gotta do what you think is best for your kids.
Peace
EF.x 

Lexi  I may have grown to have a problem with alcohol,however that would've happened any way given my life.My Dad gave me monitored alcohol and I was one of the few in my grade at school that did not sneak alcohol to school or behind their parents backs.All the while my Dad was being bad mouthed by self righteous parents (who were funnily enough not big mouthed enough to report the beatings he gave me) whose own kids were getting blind on a regular basis.I think letting a teenager try their wings in a safe environment is a smart realistic attitude to have......There are probably those who will disagree,to each their own at the end of the day we do what we can for our  children to the best of our ability.Great advice regards Merle