Think before you speak

I agree, so many people criticised me for not breastfeeding, but my boy was fed through a nose tube for first 14 days & simply would not feed from me. He was bottle fed my breastmilk for 2 weeks after being released from hospital, but because i suffer other illnesses that have made me anaemic & he was getting all my nutrients - i was getting quite sick. After consulting with the child health Nurse at our local clinic, it was decided that changing to formula would be best for BOTH of us.

I hate opinionated people when it comes to things like this, unless people know the facts they should mind their own business.

I agree with what you have written and like many before me.....it's a parents choice for sure!!

The one thing people should consider, and more so any from the minti family, look back and read exactly how many articles are saying the same if not similar as this one....and really look and read what has been said/written....it is what is best for mother and child - not what looks best on a parents resume...

Good artlice matey

Cheers

Lavinia

It makes me so upset to hear people saying that you should breastfeed. I don't like how ppl judge other ppl's choice - parenting choices. Its your choice no one else's. I don't like to be told my choices are wrong so hope not to do that to others.

"If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

And really, what business is it of theirs.

God bless and good luck to all mums who try to and succeed with breast feeding and to those who try and go to formula.

i agree people shouldnt judge or comment on what choices others make... when i was pregnannt with    my oldest daughter i was abused and as an outcome of one of my injuries i couldnt breast feed her. i got a lot of critisim for this and as i didnt want to give a reason for not feeding her i just had to take it on the chin....people should keep their opinions to thenm selves sometimes...

I got the same remarks when putting my daughter on a bottle because the bf was not enough for her she actually prefered the formula.

Won't go into the details, but I tried to BF my DD. I had lactation consultants with me for 3 hours at a time trying to "help" me and DD. She wouldn't / couldn't attach and I was in tears every night in the nursery either expressing or trying to get someone to LET ME give her a bottle. No-one wanted to let me give her formula. I had one Midwife even say to me she'd stick a tube down DD's nose and have me express for tube feeding before she'd let me go to formula. Well, that was the last straw - after 3 days (yes I know, a short effort, but a long effort) I well and truely told her under no circumstances was she putting a tube down my DDs nose for that, and I told her to go mix some formula for me now PLEASE. Well she wasn't too impressed with me but did what I asked. After about 3 days of DD not eating, she was finally getting nourished, and we never looked back. When DS was born 3 yrs ago, I tried again to breastfeed, but again he wouldn't / couldn't latch on. I did try for 2 days, but he just wasn't getting anything, his sugars dropped and he had to be admitted to the nursery to be tube fed, and even once he was put on formula he had to be coaxed into drinking more than 10-20 mls. So, when we got him eating properly, I was asked if I wanted to continue bottle feeding or try breast again. In this instance, again, bottle was the way to go (formula) I could ensure that he was getting enough, and thriving. Breast isn't always best for everyone - baby or mother, and no-one should be judged for doing what they themselves feel is best for their child. No-one else knows what that other person has gone through and why they're doing what they're doing. As long as the baby is healthy and happy and thriving - that's what I feel is most important. Oh and of course being loved!!!

You are very right.. People do need to think before they speak. I was always bugged about not breastfeeding my baby and then I finally had enough and ignored people whenever they said stuff like that. Not even the doctors said anything when they asked if she was breast or bottle fed! I think they know better, or at least they should!!

I tried to breastfeed my daughter but it just wasn't working properly, and she wasn't latching on correctly and I even had help with a lactation person, I know I could produce milk as my boobs will filling up within 3 days after having her. I tried pumping but it was REAL painful to the point where I was in tears. Next time I will try and do it for as long as I can or as the baby wants.. Like you said which ever comes first!

I had no problem with my daughter going on formula because me, my sister, and my niece were bottle fed and we're perfectly healthy! Same with my husband, he's more than healthy and he was bottle fed!!

Why should anyone be made to feel a failure as a mum if you can't breastfeed.
I tried with all 4 of mine and managed the three boys for up to 4 months but then I stopped, with my daughter I fought hard to keep it going but it wasn't working for either of us.
I was under great pressure from my Health Visitor to stick at it, but with ever mealtime ending in us both crying, I switched her to a bottle and it was so much better.
As a parent we want to do what is best for your child and there are times when breastfeeding is not the best, cos it isn't working out for one or both of you.
Mums who try and can't feel bad enough without a heap load of guilt being piled on too.

People are so judgemental of women who do not breastfeed, but prefer that those who do dont do it in public....hmmmm. 
I couldnt breastfeed, and it was hard - on top of so many other things that i was going through to have petty judgements that usually came from those people who back in the day bottle fed because of convienence when that was the latest fashion. 
I did what was best for my child in the circumstances surrounding us at that time.
Peace
EF.x 

I know this is such a sensitive issue and I agree with you,I think you are smarting from the other advice breast fed is not best fed.I really thought the lady was only saying breast fed is normal and  if you look at in the context meant,it is the normal method.May be I read it wrong I don't know,I didn't think so.....I don't think she meant that women who formula fed were abnormal or failures.I truly feel a lot of trouble with breast feeding stems from lack of support and proper latching on techniques not being ensured upon.I do agree it is the Mums choice and no Mum is a failure cause we all do our best in our individual circumstances.I love all our Mums out there having our babies we are so wonderful mmwwaahh regards Merle

I agree well done Britt. I started breastfeeding bella but after 3 months my supply got messed up and i think its so unfair that people judge others without knowing the circumstances. I think if you can breastfeed fine if not then thats fine too. Well Written

I was able to breastfeed my eldest daughter until she 18 months but could only for approx two months with the next two. I also believe that both are as good as each other and I have personally seen the effects that these type of people can have on a mother who is not able to breastfeed at all and it makes me so angry when people say that formula milk is not healthy for our kids.