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Am I ready for this?

gambit2001nz by gambit2001nz Standing(June 2006) (rank 500+)
Being a dad is scary. Very scary.
I don't know this because I am a dad, but because I am about to become one.

This will be my first son, so it's all new to me, and I'm sure there are other dad's like me out there who are just about to have their first son, and who are absolutely terrified of what they should do.
It's not like a job where you go for an interview and they see if you have the right skills for the job, and if not then they train you for a few weeks and then check again to see if you can handle the position.
This is something that you have to be ready for even if you aren't, because it's defines the life of the most important person in the world to you.

There are a billion thoughts and questions in my head every day. "Will my son like me?", "will he look like me?" 'Will there be any complications?" "What clothes would suit him best, and should I splash out for those baby nike shoes?", "should we give him a normal name or an unusual name?" "What is the correct way to hold a baby?" ( although I've already been practising  holding other people's babies that are less important than mine......just kidding.....I've had no practice at all )

We're all looking for a study course for this. "Be a dad in 90 days because you're going to be one whether you're ready or not", but there's not too much you can do to fully prepare yourself.

I think there are alot of dad's like me out there. I try and appear calm and strong to my wife. I want her to know that I am ready for this and that it's no big deal. I know it's hard for her so I don't want her to worry about me, because she has much greater things to worry about.

For me, it's important to know that every dad has been through that first baby experience, the first time where they don't know what to expect. All dad's have been through this and they've been ok.
It's going to be a challenge, but it's going to be a rewarding challenge. I feel as excited as I used to be on christmas eve as a kid, and a the same time, I feel as nervous as I was taking my driving test.

I don't feel ready now, but somehow, I get the feeling that as soon as my son comes into the world....that will be the exact moment that I will feel ready.

I wish all the prospective father's out there the best of luck, and don't worry, no matter what.....you'll get through this.

Jacob

www.oddbaby.com




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maroubra285
4.00 (Good) | August 2006 | maroubra285
you are never ready for this

having a baby is a big shock to your lifestyle, I wasnt ready, my husband wasnt ready and yet we were in our 40's and I was pregnant - we were both in denial for a long time - I didnt have the courage to take a pregnancy test until I was 16 weeks.!..my husband took a while to come round - he probably had the same concerns as you..it is a scary time. When our son was born my husband took control - he had never even held a baby before ..yet ( once the hospital showed us how )did all the bathing and nappy changes - he adores his son( except occassionally at 3:am after several hours of crying)

you will cope - take every day as it comes and dont think too far ahead - only feed to feed for the first 6 months otherwise it can feel overwhelming ....just think even complete morons can have babies and manage quite well - so will you

   



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JadieLady
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2006 | JadieLady
not too worry
my husband was asking me many of the - will he like me? what if i dont like him? kind of questions and becoming incredibley depressed throughout it all. you are always ready. it will jsut take time before you feel ready. by the time i was due to have my baby all my husband could say was i cant wait to meet the baby! can we take you in nooooooow? why arent you in labour yet?? but tyhen he didnt even know how to hold a baby or change a baby, but he learnt VERY quickly. my husband is now as competant or MORE compentant to look after a baby than me! even some mums i know didnt knwo how to handle a new born. its something every one has to learn  :)


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sanspotash
3.56 (Good) | June 2006 | sanspotash
You're ready....
You just don't know it yet. We are approaching week six with Esmee and I have to say, so much of what scared me, so much of what was clearly unknown, just worked itself out. Remember, you have a partner in figuring stuff out and so much of how we care for our children is instinctual. Granted, on a daily basis I feel like I am totally winging it, but our daughter is still happy, healthy, safe and well cared for. Just keep reminding yourself that you are not alone, Minti will guide you through the unknown ; )


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Izzy
3.78 (Good) | June 2006 | Izzy
It will be challenging.

Yes, becoming a first time parent will be challenging. You will encounter many many things that will amaze you. Some of them you'll know instinctively what to do, and some you'll have no clue. But fortunately you'll have other parents here who have gone through what you will soon be going through and can give you a little guidance if you need it.

During the first month or so of your baby's life, your responsibility as a father will mostly be to take care momma so that momma can take care of baby. Good luck!



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