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Maximum Minti 6 - Reports & Consequences

Anonymous Author (January 2007)

Although this is a forum for free speech, try to share your opinion in a conciliatory, non confrontational manner, in your blog, the appropriate group blog or comments section.  Do your best to back up team Minti, by remembering that what you write reflects on us all, so try to

keep controversial opinions in blogs or Q&A – not the advice section.  When some players get their back up, and are venting, try to diffuse the situation, or ignore them instead of antagonising them.  Ensure that you are completely up to date with Minti's ToS, and Minti's Editorial Guidelines before you report anyone or anything.  (The links to this advice are listed below).
 


 

Thinking of reporting a member, their advice, a blog or a comment?
Remember some people don't take this lightly, so please consider the following points...
 

(a) Practice your research, reading and comprehension skills - be sure that you know what you are talking about BEFORE you go off the deep end, take offence or lose your temper in regard to what someone else has posted.  If you disagree with something that is written on the site, you have the right to say so; just be sure that you know what you are talking about first to avoid embarassment. 

(b) If you are reporting in response to something that you find offensive, or upsetting, always read every comment associated to any blog, article, or question, before posting your own; this means it is less likely that you have misunderstood a comment or taken it out of context.  If you are unsure about what you have read, clarify it with the author to be sure.


(c)  Have you really got a valid reason to be reporting the comment or advice ie. have you confirmed which guideline it is in breach of, or do you personally dislike it or the author?  If you disagree with what someone has written, then take the perogative to state your opinion; there is no need to report on this basis, (unless you think the information provided could be dangerous or put someone at risk).

(d)  If it was an article posted as advice, and you feel it should be posted as blog or Q&A, have you left a comment to that effect or emailed the author privately giving them the opportunity to remedy the situation before reporting it?  It is a good idea to do this the first few times, especially for newer members; however for repeat offenders, report it and let the vote decide.  You needn't feel guilty about this as you are only bringing the article to people's attention, your report doesn't decide if it stays or goes.

(e)  Breaches of copyright are serious - however it is a courtesy to write to the author and give them the opportunity to remove or remedy the advice themselves if they are online.  If you can't, then you should report it and email them, I have added links to some excellent advice by angieh and darkenedangel about this topic.

(f) Allow people the opportunity to respond to you and make a reasonable effort to contact them... i.e. use email - not comments on blogs, if you really want someone to 'hear' you. Check whether they are online to respond to you BEFORE you presume you are being ignored - often people are logged on, yet they aren't active on the site, so be patient.


(g) Presume that most people are genuinely caring and friendly, online and offline. To assume they aren't, makes an ass out of u and me - or whoever may be involved.  People are often offended because they misunderstand what has been written, or believe it is about them, which is to their own detriment.

Be prepared to be accountable for all that you write:
The written word is harder to retract, and can be seen by far more people. 
If you are given the opportunity to apologise to someone - you should take it, it shows good strength of character, and is far better than using the last resort - reporting.  It also beats being reported and having your point of view and method of communicating it under scrutiny. I hope this advice makes you think twice about whether or not your report is legitimate.  When you make a bogus report, it doesn't reflect on your own character very well .  Also, be aware that whatever you write in a private email or group, can be reproduced.  If you conduct yourself inappropriately there, someone may present your efforts publicly, so be prepared to be accountable for all that you write.

Do you feel the only option left is to report?
Reporting members, comments, or advice should be a last resort.
We are all adults on an adult forum, let's remember to act like adults; find a better solution when it is possible.  Try to contact the author first and allow them to respond and explain or defend their position.  Make sure the member is online, and allow a reasonable time for them to respond.  If you can't agree, see if you can get them to agree on a mediator to help resolve the issue.  (The comment or advice could then be edited or retracted).  I have seen a few things reported lately that really were a bit picky (for want of a better term), and seriously did not need to be escalated to that level.  Advice and blogs can be edited, unfortunately, comments can't, so you are fairly safe in making a report in regard to a comment you are concerned about, as the author couldn't retract it themselves anyway.  You can report your own comments if you look at what you have written and are not comfortable with it.

'Reporting' is like 'telling on' someone...  I quote the Dad Brady from the Brady Bunch (I remember this from when I was 7 - yes, I am old), 'Telling on someone else is telling on yourself'.  i.e. When you are trigger happy, or making bogus reports unnecessarily, you are showing your own true character. Also - remember, if the person or author of any advice or comment you have reported doesn't have admin access - it is good manners to advise them of the situation.

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lillkatheryn
January 2008 | lillkatheryn
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reports & Consequences

Thanks for sharing....I think it's very important to have an open mind when reading everything here, and there is certainly a tactful way to solve everthing, not just reporting to report....Thank you for putting clearly for us!



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      llmunchkin
January 2008 | llmunchkin
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reports & Consequences

Thank you, I hope that it helps people resolve any issues they have without being caught up in the middle of a storm.  Sometimes there is no doubt that someone is on the site for the wrong reasons, but with a general member, we need to use tact when possible.



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Amerlinwinga
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2007 | Amerlinwinga
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reports & Consequences

Thanks for sharing Great advise hunni!

hugs and kisses



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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reports & Consequences
Thanks champ, I really appreciate the feedback, have a great day! - Lui, X


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boredmum
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2007 | boredmum
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reports & Consequences

Thanks. More great advice!

Cheers Dee.



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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reports & Consequences
Thanks Dee - it must be your turn to start writing some soon!  There are some excellent links in the list to other advice about reporting that is quite different, but really interesting and important.  Cheers, Lui.


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ellamia
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2007 | ellamia
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reports & Consequences
Great article. this is awsome for the newbies once again hehe. Thanks for putting this up. If anyone asks how to do these things ill be linking this advice.

Love Kell


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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reports & Consequences
Thank you Kell, it is all very good to report something, or someone - however you need to know when to report, and what justifies being reported.


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nodramaQueen
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2007 | nodramaQueen
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reporting Consequences

Well done! i learnt alot on this one and wasnt aware you could even report lol. Thankyou again for sharing.

L.A



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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | November 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Maximum Minti 6 - Reporting Consequences
Thanks - well a lot of people find out that you can report by accident by pushing report instead of reply, (that is a tad embarrassing).  Other people make a report that is incorrect  because they haven't read the information about what you should and shouldn't report... It's all a learning process.


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jimannakateen
4.87 (Excellent) | October 2007 | jimannakateen
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)

Well done very informative! I dont like the fact of reporting anyone ill leave that decision to everyone else lol. This is something that should prob need to be given to everyone just to be reminded haha

Well done! Hugs Tee



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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)
Me either Tee, even when I have had just cause to report someone I haven't... I don't mind reporting comments or advice that are in breach - however I leave the people reporting up to other people (so far).  I did report one guy ages ago - I think his user name may have referred to male genitalia or something - I decided that it wasn't worth waiting to see what he got up to on the site.


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LibbyS
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | LibbyS
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)

Well written and informative, congratulations!

Libby



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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | September 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)
Thank you Libby, that is very kind of you to say so - Cheers, Lui.


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simba1
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | simba1
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)

Valuable insite and information!!!  ***** for you :o)   I just found this today, and think it is so important for all, and new members like myself, especially, to learn.  Not only great information, more important, not afraid to hear back from others.

Thank you so much, take care,  Simba1



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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)
Thanks for the feedback, I think people really need to be careful when they are reporting - as if someone's motivation for reporting isn't kosher, then it comes back to bite them more often than not.  I'm not worried about other people's opinion differing to mine - I see it as an opportunity to learn.


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           simba1
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | simba1
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)

Like wise, I am trying to teach my son that "mistakes or accidents" are just that...an error, and not bad. Positive from a negative,  learning lessons to help us get on with others and with life.  Due to low self-esteem, for way too many years, this was a lesson for me to learn, and my dears son, "sorry honey, mom made a mistake, I'll try to do better next time I.......

best to you and yours, Simba1



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cheekymonkey
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | cheekymonkey
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)

Good stuff! Makes the whole reporting issue much clearer for everyone (me included!!).

Sure we all get riled up at times over articles/comments etc but that's just what make the world such a great place to be. Everyone is different, has had differing axperiences and therefore different perceptions of how things should be.

If you find yourself so infuriated etc by an article etc, then walk away for a while. Get a clear perspective on things before you log it as a comment, cos we can't edit our comments here. And there could be backlash!!

Joy to the world!!!



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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)
Thanks for the vote of confidence, and yes, I think that people sometimes need to take a breather and focus on something else.  We often misunderstand someone's intentions, or being disrespectful, whereas sharing your own honest opinion is something to be valued.  I sincerely get very disappointed when something is reported merely because someone else disagrees with it or dislikes it.  We are all different, however we have the same goal - to be the best parent's we can be.


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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)
Cazza, Domestic-warrior & merlin0903 - Thanks so much for your positive feedback.  This is an old advice that I revised and threw into a series to go with some of my more recent advice.  However, I still think it is relevant, and yesterday there was advice that was reported 3 times...  Now, I understand why, however I think that the ensuing debate, which has thus far been very healthy - had provided even better information than the actual advice itself.  This is a good thing, it provides a huge variety of experiences and reasoning along with tolerance and understanding.  A couple of months ago, our little Minti Island did not cope so well, this proves that we are growing and evolving - it's fantastic stuff.


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Domestic-warrior
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | Domestic-warrior
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)

This all makes sense to me.  Why would people go around reporting anyway.  From what i've seen here on Minti, so far, is that most people are friendly and helpful.  Maybe i'm naive or haven't been around long enough but  most advice is constructive and generally peoples opinions.  What  works for one might not be right for another, so we need more than one comment to have options.

It is probably easy to misinterpret comments since we can't rely on external influences such as  tone of voice or body language but like you said deal with it in a private format  if you think something is personal.

Good advice  Lui .........Cheers Julie



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merlin0903
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | merlin0903
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)

Lui

you make it so easy to understand, well done great advice and great job, hopefully this series is going to help out with a lot of sticky situations

hugs and kisses



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Kellzacar
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | Kellzacar
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)
Hi Lui,

this is a great little Minti series that you have put together . . .  Very well written and helpful

cheers Kellz


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      llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Welcome To Minti - Reporting Guide (revised)
Thanks Alana - I was actually going to delete it, it was like my 1st effort and rather lame - then I decided to link and edit my advice instead...  Leith already has Minti Basics for good instructions on how to do things, hers is more practical advice - this is more about personal decisions and responses... I think.


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emmie
5.00 (Excellent) | July 2007 | emmie
Re: To Report Or Not To Report...
well done lui i think this is something every member should remember luv emz x


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MumKim
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | MumKim
Re: To Report Or Not To Report...
Well written. Great advice. Something we all need to remember. Thank you


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mumof2b
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | mumof2b
I agree!
I also think that if someone is asking for advice or opinions then they have to just accept that opinion even if they disagree because we all have different views and reasons for doing things. If that person asking for opinions then responds back with an attack then it's only natural to want to defend yourself.


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HarrisonsMommy
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | HarrisonsMommy
Great Advice!

Here Here!  The ability to comment on each other's advice is there for a reason.  Not just for the pat on the back and 'atta boy (or girl as the case may be).  Other's input can be very valuable because it allows for additional information which the author may not have thought of, and can be in favor or not of the written advice.  And a comment that doesn't agree with what is written is in no way a personal attack (or at least shouldn't be).  We are all here to learn more and share our knowledge with others.

Constructive criticism is a good thing!
Angela



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      Domestic-warrior
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | Domestic-warrior
Re: Great Advice!

 I totally agree.  Shouldn't all opinions in the broad spectrum count.  People are capable of using the advice they like and disregarding what they don't like. Unless it's malicious all advice, good or constructive criticism ,can be used in a positive way.  Julie



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           merlin0903
4.64 (Excellent) | August 2007 | merlin0903
Re: Great Advice!
i totally agree with both yourself and Ange,  we all have our own opinions and ideas and is what makes us US, it is always good to share them you never know it might just help someone else


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Wendigo
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | Wendigo
Give and take.

If I can't take it, I won't give it.  If a particular person can't take it, why waste it on them? 

I've been told that when something gets my temper, I can be as diplomatic and democratic as a great white shark in a tuna farm; and sometimes I can offend people if I don't think through the two little philosophies above.  I have learned from hard experience that if something upselts me, go away, think it over, come back to it, look at it again, have another think, and then ask myself, can this be taken more than one way, and if so am I taking it the wrong way?  If the answer is yes, I leave it alone.  If my answer is no, then sure, I do something about it but I try to make sure I devise a plan and think through exactly what I want to say AND how I am going to say it BEFORE I let rip.

It isn't fail safe, but it helps. 



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breannababy
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | breannababy
criticism
I think we should look outside the box,I did think you were a tad abrasive at times but I have never voted you down as I realize you shoot from the hip and sometimes people need to be subjected to this form of advice/opinion.We each are individuals with our own unique way of dealing with problems/issues,keep on being you as we need all sides of a coin hugs Merle


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      emmysmum
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | emmysmum
criticism
I agree with you merle! Though sometimes i think its best if people aren't so abrupt, because we do need to consider the feelings of each other!


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           llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | llmunchkin
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Yeah you guys are right, some people seem to have been through a lot of nasty experiences, and don't have a lot of confidence.  I will have to remember that when I address them, and check out their profile so that I have a better idea of where they are coming from, and show more empathy.

OBTW you are meant to be making comment on what I wrote - not me personally - but as they say here in Oz, 'it's all good.  It is good to know how people feel about things, and I value your opinions.

Cheers

Lui


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                emmysmum
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | emmysmum
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Lol we are commenting on what you wrote....but a little constructive criticism here and there couldn't hurt now....could it

Kayla.


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                     llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | llmunchkin
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Hey, I didn't use upper case when I wrote, specifically to keep you happy... JustJokes!  We all have our wee quirks, that's what makes it fun.


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                          emmysmum
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | emmysmum
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lol, you're SUCH a character....


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