Your kids made mine do it...

Hiya I have had a few problems recently with this and thought I would put it out there........ so here goes.....

I love my kids......they are the most obedient, truthful,honest,well mannered and well behaved children I know..... and if they are involved in any problem with some other kids it is always the other kids who led them to do it...... NOT NOT NOT NOT true

I have come across a few parents in my life that like to believe the above statement.......BIG MISTAKE......

I know you love your kids it is natural.....I know we teach them the difference between right and wrong and we hope they will follow this..... I do it so I believe most parents do too.....This does not always happen but...... I think the worst mistake any parent can do is think that their child can do no wrong......

Here a few things I have come across.....

When my kids were younger everytime there was an incident with one of the kids of a friend of mine she would tell me well my son has never done anything like that so John or someone else must have started it.......Well my answer to that was don't be so dellusional with your kids they are not perfect either......

Her eldest son was caught shoplifting a few years ago.... My son had also been caught...... BUT in her eyes and she said so he jsut wanted to be like my son.....thats why he did it because if he had not been friends with my son he would never have done it..... My answer to that is most kids shoplift whether you like it or not Aidan has not done it again but has her son? YES because it all needs to be dealt with with consequences......She let her son get away with it with a naughty boy don't follow Aidan.... My son was grounded and made to pay back for the items taken......CONSEQUENCES..... so important

Her daughter cut her hair into a very short and very not flattering style like alot of kids do.....Well her answer was she must be copying Nikita when she saw her give the cat a haircut.....My answer to her is  mate she probably did it because you did as i did and accidently left the scissors down.....

Another thing that happened recently was a group of kids were caught wagging school and my son was in the group.......Well two of the parents blamed my son...... Mind you he had a note to not be at school from me for other reasons.......

I have had alot of parents tell me that my eldest is a bad influence on their kids because they lie to their parents and sneak out to parties (my son tells me where he is going because I drop him off) or they think that because their child is caught smoking or drinking that it must be another child who led them to do this.........

Well my advice to anyone like this is.....Do not be dellusional if your child is doing something that is wrong do not blame it fully on peer pressure.....YES.... peer pressure is a big factor I could not agree more but in this house regardless of peer pressure or the reason behind it there is consequences..... It is a cop out to think your child is an angel....Because they are most likely like any other child.....

They will push the boundaries.......try different things......become sneaky.......and fib to you....... Some parents believe that their child is never to blame.......My advice to you that is a big mistake.......

Love your kids.....believe them and think that maybe if they did not have that influence on them maybe they might not have done something but if they do do something wrong........ They chose to do it and for that reason on its own deserves consquences in this house.....

My children are no angels but they do not have the ability to control other kids minds and make them do something they do not want to do just as other kids do not have that influence on mine....... Think about it.....

Sorry if this has offended anyone in anyway but i think that this is a really important part of parenting.......

Have a great day
Cheers
Angie