There are 3 stages in a rage cycle

1. rumbling,
   
2. rage
   
3. and recovery stage

My son is very good at all three but seems to live in the Rage section...Alot of the time, i as his mum, live there too......The amount of time your child spends in each cycle though is up to you as the adult and how you deal with the stages as they come along...If you are like me and you live in the Rage cycle then this article is for you....Each cycle may last hours (my son is very good at stretching them out) or it could last just a few minutes....

The first stage is the Rumbling stage or the Tantrum

There are many little things that show you a child is going into this stage...this is your first warning of a impending crisis....
your child may start

• swearing,

•  making noises,
  

• grimacing,
  

• not co-operating,
  

• crying,
  

• voice may be going up or down
  

• foot tapping ....

The only way to defuse this stage so that you miss the rage cycle and go directly to the recovery circle is for you as the adult to remain

• calm.

• speak softly,

• breathe deeply,

• and stay flexible cause your child cant be right now....

Parenting NO NO's

• Yelling
• preaching
• Bribing
• Tense body language
• Throwing your own tantrum (i am afraid to say that i have done this)
• comparing siblings
• Double standards(do as i say, not what i do)
• Mimicking the child's action's
  

There are many others i could put but i' m sure you know alot if not most of them......

There are a few things you can use to get control of the situation back and stop this escalating this into a full blown Rage.....

1. The first is removing the child from the environment that he/she is struggling in...This is sometimes called Antiseptic bouncing....
2. a simple touch can also stop a behaviour ~  touch your child on the leg or arm but be very gentle....
3. Sometimes all you can do is walk and talk...Please remember that anything you say is gonna be the wrong thing right now...let your child speak without being scared of you yelling or causing an argument....
4. Offer no reaction if you can .....
   

There are other techniques that you can use in this stage But as you know your child better than anyone else

 the best person to judge the situation is YOU

Part 2 following this article is the Rage stage and the place where we spend most of my time in my family ......,