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Part 2...Tantrums, rages and meltdowns for special needs children ...The rage cycle... |
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Anonymous Author (January 2007) |
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If you don't calm you child down when they start rumbling then your child will go into the next area.....
Rage
some children will start to yell or raise their voices to voice their anger...Do not be tempted as i have been so often to
engage in this as it just means there are two little kids having a tantrum and not one..yep i have been a little kid many times with my son..................
Your child in this stage may be
- impulsive,
- emotional,
- destroying things,
- screaming,
- bitting,
- hitting...
- internal rage
- non verbal
Your child may be very explosive but its important for you to understand that children don't have meltdowns on purpose and once its started you cant stop it but u can help them get thru it faster.....
When your child is having a meltdown or tantrum there are a few things you can do to get them to the next stage quickly.....
Please remember ~ When your child is in this rage its normal for you as the parent to either want to flee or fight the situation..To overcome this you must stay calm and breathe deeply..
Take back control and help your child get through this situation by
- getting them out of the situation and to a cool zone...no kids and nothing they can break.......A cool zone is not about discipline but is a place where your child can go to gain their self control...
- Making sure they r safe, you and anyone around them is safe and protecting your property ...My son has put holes in the wall when i haven't got him to his own cool zone in time...I have now learnt to assess quickly and move fast
- Dont touch your child as it will esculate their reactions.....My son feels every touch when in a rage as it i was choking or breaking him.....I have to be very gentle and watch where i touch him to keep him from totally losing it...
- You need to use few words, as the child is beyond hearing you at this point..They are not thinking - just reacting so words have little meaning
- set a timer letting the child know that u will talk to them only when the timer has gone off
your goal is to get your child to the recovery stage as quickly and safely as you can...
Part 3 will delve into the last and most important stage as it determines whether your child gets through the final stage or goes back into rumbling......
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