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Mental illness...Lets help put a stop to the Stigma

cookclan by cookclan Young Parent(January 2007) (rank 7th)
This is something I really wanted to write about as Mental illness touches our lives in more ways than one....... My son has Bipolar disorder......and my foster sister has borderline personality disorder...... Did you know mental illness of some form affects alot of people?......The SANE website says:
  •  that about 1 in every 100 people will develop schizophrenia
  • 2 in every 100 develop bi polar disorder
  • about 25 in every 100 will experience some sort of mental health issue

Those are pretty big odds right.....A quarter of people will be affected by a mental health issue...... even more will have contact with some who has had  or does have......So why is there such a stigma in this day and age?

Here is a little I have come in contact with....... My son has lost quite a few friends because their parents feel that he is going to lead them down the garden path I suppose.....that he is dangerous to their children in some way or another because he has a mental illness....... I also tried to enrol him in a non conforming school...... He had  left school as he did not really fit into a normal school situation...... their reasoning behind not enrolling him in a flexi school was that they did not have the ability to cope with mental illness children......Well thats why I tried there because it was more flexible than a normal school......He is a great kid on his meds and you would not even know he has  bipolar........so now my son with an IQ of 145 is out of school.....because he does not fit into mould of the normal child......He has a mental illness..... He applied for a job and told them he had a mental illness......he did not get that job so he had to hide his illness for his next interview.....and the list can go on.......

Mental illness is something that will probably touch eveyones lives at one time or another and something that alot of families live with in silence for fear of judgement.........

This is what I would like to see......I think that parents should teach their children about mental illness..... Give them the information they need to know it exists and to not be afraid of people with it..... We are doing that with our children now..... I never really thought about it before my foster sister was diagnosed...... But then we had to and I thought to myself why have I not told my kids about this before.......

I am not saying you have to teach your kids all about mental illnesses and all the different ones they can come across etc..... What I am saying is teach them to accept people with a mental illness  as you do when you teach them about accepting the little bot in their class with glasses or the little girl with the cleft palette......

The stigma associated with Mental illness needs to be stopped and I think it can start  with us as parents teaching our kids to accept one more thing about life and what is out there............

Just my thoughts about something that is very close to us.....thanks for taking the time to read this.............

People with a mental illness have enough trouble with day to day life without also having to deal with the stigma attached to it.

Have a great day
Cheers
Angie
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fluff6
July 10th | fluff6
Re: Mental illness...Lets help put a stop to the Stigma

Hi Angie, I have a son he is 14 and he goes to a special school only because he has social problems and he really needed more help with hes schooling, it took me a long time to send him to that school, becaus e didnt want him to have a stigma, but yr right us parents need to teach our children to take people the way they r, no one is the same and there is a lot of people out there with problems they hide away.  My father suffers from many sorts of phobias, i grew up with him and the issues he had and everyone thought he was crazy in a way, but now days its more known and people seem to understand more so hopefully as years go on people may understand more about mental illness, and hopefully give some compation to those that need it,  there  is no one perfect person in this world!   Good Luck. karen xxxxxxxxxx



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nabutters
July 6th | nabutters
Re: Mental illness...Lets help put a stop to the Stigma

i have been suffering PND and i really loved this article.....fantastic..more ppl need to read.....

na xxxx



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lucky321
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | lucky321
well done

 a great article ,  well put togther 



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bast
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | bast
Very good article
Just have to say that your article was really well written and more peopel out there need to read it.Just being finding your way around the world is enough without having to compicate it with having a mental illness. I have a diagnoses of DID and yeh can be hard and challenging at times. But The most important thing I have found is having a good support network.And by the sounds of it you must be  great support  for sure. Take care of yourself as well as everyone knows take care of yourself make sure your ok then you will have the energy to help and to give back to other people.


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sunshineoz15
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | sunshineoz15
Mentally Ill Mum

Brilliant article.

When I accidently fell pregnant with my son we actually considered terminating the pregnancy due to the severity of the mental illnesses I suffer. My main diagnosis is DID - dissociative identity disorder. I also suffer from severe depression, social phobia, and anxiety to name a few.

These illnesses definitely make motherhood more of a challenge and we often talk about how much to tell our son when he is old enough to understand. We don't want him to have to deal with the stigma of having a mentally ill mother.

If we can end the stigma this will never be an issue for him.



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OzBinky
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | OzBinky
Better late then never...

I don't know how I missed this article Angie.....

It is a GREAT articel, as per usual....

and

Thank you for addressing this problem so well...

Lavinia



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MissieK
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | MissieK
I agree

I had/have PND and it's amazing the stigma out there about that!  I can't believe the number of mother's who won't go & get help because they are scared their kids will be taken away from them.

Excellent article. 



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panting8
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | panting8
mental illness
i to know what its like to have mental illness i have had deprssion for nearly 12 years i lived with it everyday my husband suffered and so did my children i now am better i havn't had my anti- depresants since the last school holidays which was october. you have no control over anything the depression rules your life and the way you live. you have no motivation no desire for anything. you have no feelings at all it's like your numb and on auto pilot 24/7 and theres is nothing you can do about it.


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Goddessie7
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | Goddessie7
Mental Ilness

I am glad that you wrote this piece. I was diagnosed with Bi-Polar disorder at the age of 18 but was sure i had the illness from a younger age. Over the years i was re-diagnosed as having severe anxiety/depression.

Thanks to my strong will and help from my family and friends i am able to deal with this without the use of medication now! It's wonderful to take hold of my life for a change!

My daughter (7) is having a few troubles of her own too. We are in the middle of having her tested for A.D.D and other things. She has to have all the hearing and sight tests done to rule out other problems.

We are working very closely with her teachers at school and she is seeing a counciller who is helping us out too!

All i hope is that the stigma will wear off one day! We are all different and that is what i teach my daughter! Es...x



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blackwidowkate
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | blackwidowkate
I am mental
Hi
Good article.....stop talking about me lol
Happy now and you know what i mean woman

"They're coming to take me away hahahahhah"
Thanks Luv Deb


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Wendigo
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | Wendigo
statistics

1 in 5 people at some point in their lives will suffer from a mental illness.

on avarage, 5 people commit suicide everyday in Australia.

If anyone is going to ostracize someone for having a mental illness, they had better be prepared to challenge me - yep, I've got one too.



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mace-oz
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | mace-oz
dads veiw

I remember telling my dad I had depression when I was 15 (after atemtped self harm) and he cried. I relise that he had no idea but blamed himself for doing something wrong. Its never any one persons fault it just happens and we all need to learn to live with and around it.

Great advice, made me think about the above and glad I had support. Your son will and probably is glad of your support.



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Raine
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | Raine
Mental Illness or as I prefer 'Brain Chemical Imbalance...'
Hi Angie...

This article hit home base with me at the moment due to the fact that we are still not entirely sure what is going on with our little one... Thankfully your son has a terrific family to lend him support.

When people hear the term 'mental illness' it's as if they raise an invisible barrier hoping to protect themselves from contamination. This is so sad, as it's often just the slightest neurological imbalance causing the problem which can be corrected by the right medication. There has been so much advertising lately trying to shed light on mental illness, yet the stigma remains... You would think people could see it's 'NOT CATCHY' It's also sad to see how the response of the general public makes dealing with the problems associated with bi-polar or other brain chemical imbalances so much harder... As Darren Hinch used to say 'SHAME... SHAME... SHAME'

May I ask how old your son was when he was diagnosed as I've heard they don't recognize Bi polar in Australia until a child reaches 16... As our lad is only five I was surprised to see the new med they gave him the other day is one prescribed to help bi-polar patients... (We've had our doubts as to the single diagnosis of autism for some time)


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breannababy
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | breannababy
KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN
Trying to live and work (maintain a job)is so difficult for a sufferer,just testing your wings as a young adult is hard enough let alone having a mental disorder.Thanks Angie hugs Merle


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NickysMumMum
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | NickysMumMum
End the stigma
I applaud you for helping ending the stigma of mental illness. I believe the fear people have of sufferers of mental illness is to do with a lack of knowledge and understanding of the nature of mental illness. I remember back in the 80's when AIDS was rife and the scare campaigns made people run a mile from sufferers thinking that they would get AIDS from being touched or breathed upon. Sometimes I feel that people treat mentally ill people the same way, as though they have some contagious disease. If only they understood the social nature of mental illness, that sufferers can only get better if they have loving, caring people around them. Family support is extremely important. Without it and stuck inside an institution sufferers will never get well. I know.......My mother has been in hospital with schizophrenia for 15 years. Noone is there top help her, but my brother who also suffers untreated. I love my dear mum and miss her but I was torn from her when I was 8 years old and feel powerless over her plight today. I myself have gone through exactly what she did after the birth of my child and the only thing rhat could bring me around was the knowledge that I had people who cared about me and wanted me to get well - also I had a little help from medicinal friends.

Anyway, I believe that society might be less fearful if they only knew about the causes and effects and treatability of mental illness. It's not a death sentence like many people think it is. Many people in high ranking positions in society live and deal with mental illness. It can be overcome but only with continual support and medication.

Thankyou so much. You are doing a wonderful job to stick by your on. In the past parents had there children institutionalised - a path from which there is no escape. You are a wonderful woman! Keep up the good work!!

's Hayley


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gavnat
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | gavnat
Mental illness

Yeah there is alot of stigma attached to mental illness. I have a 14 daughter with a dual diagnosis of autism and psychosis. She is has been on the receiving end of many a bullying session at school and the scorn of people in general when she in the middle of a down time. It is hard enough for her to deal with these conditions as it is without people putting in the boots while she is down.

That is what led my wife Natalie and i to start our own forum to share these experiences with other parents in the same situation. It is hard being the parent of a daughter going through this but we also know that we havent got it nearly as bad as our daughter who struggles with this every minute of her life.



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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | nell18-3
Stigma of Depression
You got my vote on this one!
Mental illness is always so badly misjudged.
Their are so many types of mental illnesses, just because someone has one it does not make them a bad person or possible killer etc people should all be given a chance in life. If you were to not get a job because you were in  a wheelchair there would be an outcry about it, everyone has the same rights.
Lets look at the person not the condition, we already have to deal with our condition, its much easier if we are accepted in society.


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