Finding a new relationship( with four in toe)

I am always interested when i over heard comments about a mother of 4 trying to get herself a new relationship and what effect this could have on the children of the previous relationship. i have four children in varying ages and the many months they spent with little to no contact from there dad(his fault and mine) was incredibly hard. after becoming closer to the man i now have in my life i found that the children not only had daddy type figure to ask for a game of catch but also another adult to cry to ,ask for help with homework and another person to attend events such as school concerts ,when daddy wasn't available.knowing first hand that many women young and old fear looking for any lasting relationship for the simple fact of the whispering public or that simply no person will see me as a worth while girlfriend/boyfreind with four children Do not let anyone tell you you are silly for wanting what many people have, a  solid comfortable relationship with someone.The comments like "worry about your kids and not a man" i got sick of because i believe your happiness is just as im portant as theres. and that they too will enjoy a whole and enjoyable life too from the "new " daddy figure in there lives.