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4.70 (Highly recommend) from 20 votes (185 Visits)

Having a new bub

by lexiw

(January 2007) (rank 10th)

My sister has just had a beautiful baby girl and my cousins girlfriend has just had a gorgeous little man.

I know myself that when you have had a baby you are exhausted and you really are not up to all the phonecalls and visits that you get within

hours ( sometimes minutes) of going through the worst pain of your life. I only just spoke to my sister today to find out how everything was going and my neice was born on the first of january. Don't get me wrong I wanted to so bad and I did send her an email but I really didn't want to call her before she had a chance to get home and settle herself and her family into having the new bub. My sister new I was there if she needed me and she also new that I was thinking of her.

My cousins girlfriend only just had her baby two days ago I warned her prior to having her bub that I would not contact herfor atleast two weeks because this is her first bub and she will already have half of our town at the hospital and on her door step before she even gets the chance to get used to what bub is going to need and what she is going to need herself. She thanked me for this and promised to ring me if she needed anything. My cousin rang me today to let me know how everything had gone and let me know all the little details. I was very happy he did but like I said to him I am not a prioritory right now his fiancee and his son are what is important and if people get offended because they havn't been informed then that is there problem.

My advice is unless you are asked or have previously discussed it with the parents to be then please leave them in peace. If they need something they will ask and they will know that people are thinking of them. Send them an email or a txt message but visitors and phonecalls really do get to be a bit much in the first few days.

Lexi xxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| merlin0903

Re: Having a new bub

thats great advice Lexi, thanks for sharing it with us as i am sure it will help some new mums and dads out there,

hugs and kisses

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| hoprah

Re: Having a new bub

BRILLIANT ADVICE! DH sent a text to friends and family and should have put WE'LL CALL YOU at the end of it! Phone calls were coming fast and heavy!!!!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| August 2007 \| emmie

Re: Having a new bub

brilliant cheers lexi x

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2007 \| Cristlyn

great advice

that is so true im currently 22 weeks pregnant and this my 3rd buby and thats great advice

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2007 \| emmysmum

Great advice

Thats so true! I know when i had emily i had visitors pouring in left right and centre! To be honest with you i was wishing them all to buggery except for my grandparents! i didn't even want emilys father there! It was nice to have visitors every second day (i was in hospital for 10) but ohhh so many! I had like 30 million people! or at least thats what it felt like. lol.
great article lexi! Keep up the great work!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2007 \| lexiw

Great advice

and half of these people you don't see very often they just want to sticky beak at the new bubba.

Lexi xxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2007 \| exquisite-flower

Sounds good

I think that sometimes it is nice to have visitors, but the kind that help out somehow, pop in for two seconds literally as they drop off the ironing, the casserole or those nappies that you ran out of and didnt ahve time to get more of....

For the rest - I agree - I was rude and just stopped answering my door when I was feeling not up to it...shameful maybe, but I needed a break!
Peace
EF.x

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2007 \| lexiw

Sounds good

Not shameful at all new babies are alot of work and the parents need quiet time whenever they can get it.

Lexi xxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2007 \| breannababy

Well meaning

people can really either rock the boat or be the rock of gibralter.I really just wanted to be left alone with my hubbies both times.I think it is a great idea to let hubby deal with the hoards as he will know exactly where your head is at as you usually let him know first LOL .Great article Lexi hugs Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| January 2007 \| mcm

Sometimes

I think it is a matter of balance. I was so bored with my first baby! I wanted visitors. But with my boys I wanted space. I guess it depends - each parent is different.
I think close friends and family are privileged to respect a new mother and are able to respect her wishes.
Oh but how exciting - new baby. My brother in law had a baby girl just after Christmas. She is so little and just so pretty. We give her mum space but also want her to know that we are near if she needs us.
My brother and his wife are due to have their first in April. I so want to be right there to see the new bub yet I know they need to settle into life with a new bub.

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