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by lexiw  (January 2007) (rank 10th) |
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Hi everyone,
Our oldest daughter is 10 and she just started a new school in December as we moved to another area of town. The problem is that the other kids in her class are not giving her a chance to get to know her. She is
a very nice and giving person, and i am not just saying that because she is my daughter. She is probably the most caring 10 year old i know. She came home from school today and told me that the girls in her class wanted to give her a schedule of times that they would let her hang out with them. I just don't know what to tell her. She shouldn't have a scheduled time where she is permited to hang out with the kids. She wont stand up for herself because she does't want to be mean to any of the kids.
What should we do? What would you do if your child was in this situation?
Any advice will be apreciated. Thanks
What Maria needed was to build her self confidence. It is amazing the difference a little bit of self confidence can make. Maria participated in counselling for her anxiety and fears which led to helping her with her self confidence and gradually Maria started making friends who were not confident themselves, Kids that got picked on and kids that had a hard time making friends because of other circumstances. This led to Maria being able to help some really special kids, one of whom had not had a sleep over in over two years. Maria now has a small group of really good friends who are pretty responsible for their age and they are very caring young girls too.
Maria also can stand up in front of her whole school and sing solo now because she has worked hard at building her self confidence with the love and support of her family and her counsellor. Low self confidence can not always be picked up straight away but it is important to think it could be a possibility because confidence is something that helps get through the ups and downs of life.
Hope this helps
Lexi xxx
My eldest daughter Maria had the same problems at her new school. She also has a kind and giving nature and didn't want to fight with the other children or hurt anybody's feelings but in the process she was having her feelings hurt all the time. She ended up suffering from anxiety attacks it all got so bad.
This is awesome advice to anyone who's got children going to new schools or even knows that their child is having difficulty making friends. I moved around a lot when i was younger so know exactly what it's like starting at a new school when friend groups are already established. It's torture!!! I'm so glad you're doing everything you can for Maria and Brielle. You are absolutely awesome!!!
's Hayley xxx
