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4.93 (Highly recommend) from 21 votes (374 Visits)

Strength

(February 2007) (rank 137th)

My Aunty told me one peice of great advice when i was in my bad relationship it goes like this:

IF YOUR STRONG ENOUGH TO STAY, THEN YOUR STRONG ENOUGH TO LEAVE..

And how true that is, you would have to have alot of strength to put up with such abuse...

To deal with it every day, to live each day , not knowing whats going to happen, to be able to stand

up after being battered, bruised, insulted/assulted, to be able to cover up there lies and put on a

happy brave face each and every day..so on so on

In the end you will realise

it's so much harder to stay

than it is to leave...

For anyone out there who is in an abusive relationship (either emotional or physical),

please i ask of you to stop, and take a minute and ask yourself

"what right does this man have, to own and control YOUR life, to decide how you live"

And is he really worth sacrificing the greatest gift you will ever recieve as a human being???

The gift of Life

(Even greater than having our kids)

Dont let these PRIGS take it from you, it's yours.

(he he he) (how'zat wendigo? ..LOL)

And what they take from you they take from your kids..

I wish you the best, in your journey, if you happen to feel lost at any time, know that

I and so many other Mintarians will be there for you..

**Today , Tomorrow And Always**

SkyLee

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	May 21st \| Elizabeth23

Re: Strength

Oh my god.... just readin this made me cry..

Sky I glad you wrote this advice I hope all women out there have the strength n courge because I didnt n I hid in shame but now I not goin 2 hid

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| emmie

Re: Strength

that is brillisnt advice cheers

emz

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| September 2007 \| lexiw

Re: Strength

Great advice

Lexi xxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| hermy

Strength

your aunty is a very smart lady......great piece of advice....well done...thank you....xxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| skylee

great advice

Thanks guys... yeah she does give great advice...

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| mumof2b

Great Advice

Your Aunty is a very wise woman!!

Amanda

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| August88

Such good advice

Life's too short

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| skylee

thank you everyone for your comments

thank you everyone for your comments

Skylee

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| llmunchkin

Good old fashioned advice...

So simple, so true, it simplifies everything and highlights the really important things... Your Aunt sounds like a very cool customer : )

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| skylee

Good old fashioned advice...

yeah nothing beats it hay!!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| mcm

What a clever woman.

Your Aunty is wonderful to say that - very clever.
Thankyou.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| allyp

Excellent

That is just great.. I love how well put it is.. And what your aunty told you is excellent!! Thank you for sharing with us :)

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| nell18-3

Why Stay????

So true,
I don't know why I stayed so long, I swear these 'men' remove the common sense chip from our brain. Why do we think we really have no choice but to stay and put up with it. I had no bad physical abuse, a few shoves and some light kicks which were bad enough but the constant mind games and controlling and phone calls checking up on me, the accusations, the lies, the put downs, the worthlessness, the fear, why did I think for so long I had to put up with it. I used to think it was the best thing for the children to stay.....how wrong was I. All I was doing was letting them think that was normal life and it was acceptable. They now feel it is their job in life to protect me, they are children they should not have pressures like that.
At the end of the day, we never leave, no matter what people say, because a) we believe we asked for it, thats how we have been programmed and b) cos until we see our life will never get better, for ourselves with our own eyes, we believe they can change each time they apologise.
But they can't. My ex would swear on a Bible he had done nothing wrong and even believe it, so how can you argue against logic like that.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| skylee

Something that helped me get through this was the

SERENITY PRAYER

God grant me the serenity

to accept the things i cannot change (HIM)

Courage to change the things i can (MY LIFE)

And the wisdom to know the difference..

My father who passed away 17 yrs ago taught me this prayer and said that some day it would help me... and by golly it sure has, hope it helps others too..

Lots a love

Skylee

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| Tazzette

Something that helped me get through this was the

I have something similar hanging in my toilet ( of all places lol ) it goes like this.

Lord,

Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change those things I can,

and Wisdom to hide the bodies of the people I may have to K$#L because they P*&S me off.

This puts a smile on my face every time I visit the loo.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

VERY IMPORTANT

Message Skylee.......this will certainly inspire more people in abusive relationships to make a move to extricate themselves from those positions. Great article hugs Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| skylee

VERY IMPORTANT

I hope so, as it's true,

cause when you finally take the step and leave.. give it a couple of months or so and you will be sitting there saying to yourself ... Dam girl why didn't ya do this years ago....

Lots a love

Skylee

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