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- I know first hand how hard it is to know what to do when we find our children exploring each others genitals or simulating adult intimate behaviour.One of the most frequent questions asked is.s this normal?In my experience it is normal for most children to show a curiosity in each others genitalia.I mean lets face it they are pretty funny looking appendages LOL I think once you find your childs curiosity piqued it is a great opportunity to implement the good touch bad touch teachings.There are many excellent resources be they from the bookshop or library,age appropriate material is very advantageous.I really believe overreacting or harsh verbal outbursts can be very detrimental to the situation.You don't want to scare your child or make them feel dirty or ashamed of their body,nor do you want to fuel the taboo fire.you know the ooohhh this is really BAAADDD so it must be good scenario.
- I think setting up a great foundation to curb inappropriate curiosity is a top idea,you can start from an early age to teach them self privacy(keeping them selves covered),Making sure Dad's(or Mums
 ) magazines or DVD'S are kept away from prying innocent eyes,monitoring TV programs even PG as they to can have intimate(soft)behaviour and making sure your kids do not play behind closed doors,as soon as this seems to rear it's head be vigilant as it usually means mischief of some sort.Older children who have had unchecked curiosity and explorations will often lead younger children astray and educate them far more then acceptable,when this happens it is very hard to curtail this behaviour in all children involved.The reasons being are quite obvious.pleasure,that and the taboo aspect of their behaviour. It is extremely hard to get through to kids that something that feels good is unacceptable to do or to have done to them.This is why supervising our children at all times can be beneficial,as we can jump on this problem as soon as it crops up.From what I have witnessed abnormal or too advanced alarm bells going off behavior is as follows:-
- ANY penetrative (including digiatl)goings on
- naked adult intimate simulation
- Continual repeated abnormal experimentation
- These points are just a guideline to what I have witnessed with my own Children and various reletives.I also know that these incidents of exploration can cause a lot of friction and hostility between friends and family.This is why it is also beneficial to stay as calm as possible if you find yourself and child/children in this situation.Remember if a child has performed advanced behaviour on your child there is a very real chance that they may have been sexually abused......they need help and understanding,you may have to approach this subject very delicately with their parents.Please do this for the sake of the child,they are not at fault and they need our protection.I can only say be vigilant with your kids and educate at the earliest opportunity.Regards Merle
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