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4.68 (Highly recommend) from 25 votes (271 Visits)

Opinions and Feelings

Anonymous Author (February 2007)

It is so difficult to write up an article/advice without becoming passionate about it's contents.It is the passion that usually makes for a brilliant piece,thus being said I feel we must still be considerate of other people's feelings.Don't get me wrong It is not my intention to imply that people who

are writing about a less popular side of a topic should refrain from doing so,not by a long shot.I am just saying it is a responsible practice to get your point across without making obviously hurtful statements.

I love all the different views and opinions of our members,it makes for an interesting and lively site....a well articulated debate is entertaining,however when comments on advice/articles start to get personal or hurtful I think the discussion should cease,be dropped or sorted out privately or taken over to the forum.I think it detracts from the site to have people resort to insults gee what example do we then set for our kids???? I know people will say oh if you don't like it don't read it.that is all well and good,half the time by the time you realize the article is not for you it is too late.This are my opinions and I just dislike any upset on my favourite site between my favourite people I did not blog this as I wanted this to reach more of an audience than my profile would receive.Please fellow Mintiers be thoughtful of each other and play nicely. HUGS and SUNSHINE Merle

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ADVICE RATING

4.68 (Highly recommend) from 25 votes

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 2007 \| lexiw

Great article angel

Very well said

Lexi xxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| OzBinky

Well said

I know what you mean. I get very passionate sometimes and it shows. I know I can be taken out of context and do the same with others....

We all do and say things that can be taken in the wrong way and visa versa....the hardest thing I find that I sometimes do and for the right reasons isn't the comments as such but reporting. I do this for minti and author. If there is a chance either one can get into trouble I'll do it, knowing that if I'm wrong, well I'm wrong, just as long as all are without legal probs - I dont' care....

I know people get very upset over this...and I get that, it's happened to me aswell..but its better to be safe than sorry...

So guys, just to add to Merles articel, if an article is reported - don't get too upset, it's done for the right reasons...and it is NOT a personal thing...just people trying to help others....just a thought though, it does pay to try and email the person first though....ask and if you are not happy then do the report thing.

Great artilce merle

OB

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| lightbee

Well put

Good advice again, Merle! I think it's a really timely reminder to be careful how we express ourselves because when you are passionate about a subject, it can be hard to see the other side and be thoughtful of others. Plus, when you're convinced you're right about something, it can be hard to sit and take it when others disagree with you. But I think learning to do that tactfully is part of what being a grown up is about!

By the way, I'm not aiming this at anyone - more giving myself a reminder!!!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

Well put

Thanks Leith,I really appreciate you giving me feed back on my articles.I love seeing how every-one views issues.hugs Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| NickysMumMum

Playing nicely

Too right Merle, hear hear!!! I really appreciate what you're saying and I hope everyone respects you for saying this. Sometimes the way we voice our comments does sound like we're being a little unfair to the author of an article. Some of this does have to do with the mode of our communication, as sometimes it's difficult to properly express ourselves. I think it's pretty important for us all to keep sight of the reason for this site. That is to support one another not pull others down. The fact is that most of us have been through some pretty rough times and it's not a competition who's had the worst - I know when you're feeling low you can feel it's you. But I totally agree with you that we should keep it positive and any negative things that come up hmmm..... We all need support in these difficult times, not negativity.
Beautifully spoken Merle!

's Hayley xx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

Playing nicely

Thank-you Hayley for supporting my thoughts,I think minti is a life line to a lot of people.It can be very damaging for individuals to read insensitive advice/articles or comments.Although sometimes you cannot please any-one and you will be misconstrued no matter what! hugs Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| exquisite-flower

Good point

Well written and great advice to bear in mind as we share in this community - seeing as that is what it is - and although diversity is what makes a community special, harmony is what keeps it ticking over
Peace
EF.x

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

Good point

Thank-you EF,I feel to keep Minti as special as it is we ALL (me too)need to be very mindful of how we put pen to paper,as we all know the pen is mightier than the sword.........hugs Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| exquisite-flower

Good point

Like the cliche:

"Words can harm or can heal, they can be used to build or to destroy"

There are always ways of saying things in a 'nice' way in order to make them palatable to all those who may see them. It is something I attempt to do in my life, then at least I can (legitimately) nag others if/when they dont....lol
Peace
EF.x

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

Good point

100% agree with you hugs Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| nell18-3

Opinions

Thanks Merle
You are bang on
AGAIN xx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

Opinions

Thank-you Helen,I love the way you always give comments on articles you read(not just mine) mwah you go girl

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| Kellzacar

MMM . . feelings & opinions

Hi Merle,

Yes you are so right . . . I admit to sometimes overstepping the mark a bit and then later regretting it . . . But sadly when it somes to my kids i am a big spitfire . . . . However that being said, i am now reading something and if i feel it upsets me then i am logging off, thinking about it then logging back on and hopefully leaving a positive yet well aimed comment.

I feel alot like angie, sadly i will retaliate and I too am sorry this hurts others as this is not my intent.

Hey i'm only a mum and i think sometime a very over- protective one at that. But my intentions are always true and honest . .

A wel written article Merle.

Cheers Kellz

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

MMM . . feelings & opinions

CRICKEY I am no angel either..........and be sure I make an effort to practice what I preach.My aim is more at people that seem to knowingly write inflammatory words.Please don't take my words as a judgment of you.........I was speaking generally.I hope didn't offend mwah Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| cookclan

Merle Merle Merle

I make my first comment on an article and do it as tactfully as possible trying to bring my point across......how I feel.....Then if I am attacked I then will retaliate and probably I should not do it.......I am sorry to anyone who feels I have been neglectful of their feelings......
Mwah
Angie

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

Merle Merle Merle

Angie,please don't take this as a judgment on you personally.........I think you handled your feelings exceedingly well and you wrote a brilliant article to put your feelings across.The article was also a very informative and non hostile piece.There just seems to have been a spate of heated writings across the Minti site not just in the Advice sector.I was speaking generally trying to pull us all together as my biggest fear is minti might become like a lot of organizations- a bigoted judgmental self serving place.I don't want to lose such a warm and safe friendly place.For if we did,I would not have a place to meet wonderful kind funny people such as YOU mmwwaahh hugs Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| cookclan

Merle Merle Merle

You are one of my bestest buddies on here hehe.....I did not take it personally.....I was actually taken away from the article in question by my hubby when I wanted to write something more hehehe......I know what to do if I kind of feel heated these days I had a wonderful teacher on how to be more tactful wink wink ......this is well written advice matey as always.........I love it.....
Mwah
Angie

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

Merle Merle Merle

Thanks Angie,hugs Merle mwah luv Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| Jillofalltrades

Opinions and Feelings

Awww Merle your such a lovely passionate person how could anyone be offended.

I agree, we are here to help each other to learn and grow from each individuals knowledge and thoughts. We are all different so our ways of expressing ourselves will always be different, but should never undermine the writer. This is not to say that we are not entitled to our opinions but like Merle said we should be mindful of whether it might be hurful.

Happy Minti times for all xxxxxxxxxx

xxxxxxxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

Opinions and Feelings

Thank-you for your comments you read it exactly how I wrote it .........mwah and hugs merle

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