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4.94 (Highly recommend) from 24 votes (188 Visits)

don't compare

by madmadmummy

(February 2007) (rank 408th)

Just today I realised something that I do way too much - compare Charley's milestone's with other kids her age. How stupid.

Remember that every child is different and will do things in their own time, no matter how frustrated you get. If you are worried, seek professional advice.

Not advice from the mother who is boasting that their 18 month old is toilet trained and is applying to uni next semester - they will do nothing but depress you. When you run into these people, smile, nod, ooh and ahh, and be appreciative of your child for the way they decide to do things.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| RebeccaDorant

proud parents

it might also be that that boasting parent is just proud of his/her child and wants to tell everyone about it. i dont think that alot of people realise it but we all are guilty of comparing everything to everything else we are taught to very early on in life... we even teach it to our own kids to show same and different. the difference is when we compare our kids to someone elses there are emotions involved and it get's personal... great article thanx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| bubba76

l do as well

l have been comparing since l had my first child 14 years ago, l should have learnt by now but l have not.....l just have always liked to see how my kids and other kids do things differently.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| Kyliebowyer

Compare

Unfortunatly i am alittle guilty of that myself. I never compare her with someone to her. I think thats more wrong as she could begin to resent that child. But my little girl is smart, funny and i am proud of her no matter what.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| lucky321

so right

great advice here , no you shouldn't compare any children they all devlope at driffrent stages .

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| dominicsmom

comparing

i have been doing that. cos my son is only 9months and he hasnt got teeth, yet his 1yr old cousin has six, and her cousin has all her teeth at 8month. so i have stopped comparing now.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| 4BOYZ

Well said

well said. I'm sick of braggers too. As you said everyone is different.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| OzBinky

Totally agree with you

You should never compare your childs accopmplishments with anohter.......

Great advice again...

Cheers

Lavinia

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| MumKim

We all have things we are good at

Great advice. The other thing to remember is that we all have things we are good at and things we are not so good at. That is part of what makes us all individuals.
Also child who is behind their peers at talking might be ahead of them at other things such as motor skills, then catch up on their talking while their peers are catching up in the motor skills department.
At the end of the day they are our children and we love them regardless.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| exquisite-flower

Absolutely!

I totally agree. E never measures up to the things they compare on, but she is often ahead on other areas, so i just sit in my smug little corner and be happy with the blessings i have
Peace
EF.x

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| nell18-3

Even worse

than comparing your children to other children.............comparing them with their sublings!!!!!
A sure way to cause family disputes and resentment between family members
xx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| breannababy

compare me not

Wise words and all parents should heed them.well done regards Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| cazza

every child is diffrent-dont compare

thankyou, and i wish this site was around 8 years ago when my brodie was little as always being he was my first compared him with others, and mil didnt help at all as she had a granddaughter older then brodie... Now i have 3 children and its sad it took me to my 3rd came along to realize that they are all diffrent, and i do stand up now and say so....So great advise and i hope everyone thakes it on board...

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