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4.66 (Highly recommend) from 25 votes (2031 Visits)

teen age mum

by barby

(February 2007) (rank 500+)

i was 15 when i left school ran of with a boy i thought i would spend the rest of my life with,(like we all do) we were dating for around 4 months and i moved in with him as my step dad use to hit and verbally abuse me,

i had to get out of there quik so my boyfreinds parents let me live with them.

after around 6 months we had to move out of his parents and move into our own place which was very scary and hard as i just turned 16 so i was only still a baby.then about another 3 months i found out i was pregnant i though oh my god im so young what am i going to do, we thought we have to tell our parents what a scarey thought that was.well we did they wernt to happy but were there for support.

i just turned 17 and the father my boyfreind was 18 and i was 7 months pregnant i was so big i thought i was going to bust i was getting scared i was going to be a mum and have this baby i wasnt shore what to do,then that morning come i felt a little pain and i said do you think this is labour as i didnt no what iot felt like so we went to the hospital,and yes she was born 2 hours later.

i looked down i saw what a gorguess little baby i have i didnt even no how to change a nappy let alone feed her from my boobies which havnt finished growing,i was in the hospital for a week so i could look after the baby when i got home,i felt so much love and i was so mature inmyself that im a mother.

the first day i brought her home i was scared she was going to cry all night or somthing like that but it all come to me we were fine even dad was great we loved her so much,people would stare at us and say rude comments but i would lurn to ignore those people.

as she got older we got more mature i loved been a mum it was so much fun,then at 19 i was pregnant again we had a son which was 8 weeks early very scarey i tell you but he was fine he was only 3 pound and was in hospital for a month when we brought him home we were so happy we had the kids.

people put young people down for getting pregnant but they can be good mums aswell i wish i had more support from people but never mind i did it all on my own and now they are 13 and 16 they are great kids and i love been the new age mum to my daughter and her friends we get on reaal y well......

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	February 2008 \| dannii17

Re: teen age mum

hey im 17 and will be 18 wn bubs is born,only 23wks to go.Ive had alot of experience with kids so im not much worried about that part.My family are so supportive and arehappyw ith my decision.Im with my partner and we plan on staying together,we have our probs but its only normal.Im worried about th elooks and comments but at the end of the day i have to be more mature not to care what ppl think.Im very happy im going to be a young mum and i have alot of confidnce within myself.I too hate ppl that put teens down cos some do an excellent job some better than older mums.Im happy il be a laid back mum i think you have a better relationship with your kids that way.

Great story,and im glad your living proof of what an excellent job teen mums can do.

Dannii xxo

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| youngmumof2

I was a young mum

Hi i know where you're coming from. I became pregnant when i was 19, which is still very young to become a mum. And i went through the same thing. The nasty comments, loss of family support and all the rest. One thing i found was who my real friends were. My true friends stood by me through it all. The others just dropped off the radar. I love my kids and love being a mum. I now have 2 kids. Iesha will be 3 in June and Julius is 6 months. Young mum's do get a bad wrap. I think this comes from the young mums out there that don't do the right things by their kids. And the bad ones stand out more than the good ones. Being a mum is hard no matter what age. People need to support the younger mum's and guide them in the right direction not make rude and hurtfull comments. How else are they going to learn?

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| 4BOYZ

Young mum

I am a young mum to 4 boys and loving it. I can still run around and play with my kids unlike some of the older mums out there. Good on you. I'm happy for you.

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	4.60 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| MadMel

Young Mother

Thank you for sharing your story. I am a young mum. I am 22 with a 3 year old boy and a 21 month old boy. They were born into a not so desirable environment but they were loved from the first second! I eventually got the courage to up and leave the father and bring them up how I wanted.
Now they are growing and being loved and nurtured and I am the best mum I can be. I do not for one second regret having them. Nor do I think i have missed out on anything having them so young. Who cares about parties and drinking and concerts and girly nights? NOT ME! I will take nappies and baby spew and The Wiggles and bottles if it means I get one more smile and one more kiss and one more cuddle!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| February 2007 \| raych

young mother

Thank you for sharing your story. In years gone by (a generation or two ago), it wasn't uncommon for couples to marry at 18 and start a family. They were working by then so they were quite mature. However, the 18 yr olds of today are still students, still living at home, still being waited on hand and foot (I am really generalising here - I know it's not the case for everyone) so in a sense they have nowhere near the maturity of the same age group from yesteryear. So when our society sees a young mother, yes they tend to be frowned upon, but i guess that could just be ignorance or fear even, that the child may end up being raised incompetently. But, there is a reason for why people's lives are the way they are. We can't all be the same.

But I have a 17yr old niece who gave birth to her own baby last week. It saddens me greatly, because I know that the child is not born into a desirable environment, but that is not for me to judge. I think the saddest thing is that it only seems like a few years ago, I held my newborn niece in my arms at only 10hrs old and I was the age that she is now, and I think of all the experiences she will miss out on because she is now responsible for the child. But then, she might prove to be an excellent mother, something her own mother never was!

Your story was lovely. Thanks.

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