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by Saraloo  (June 2006) (rank 211th) |
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Ok I feel like I need to address the issue... I have some friends that are having some difficulty allowing their husbands to have a life outside the house and work. Husband needs time to hang with the boys just as much as you need time to hang with the
girls. My husband is a perfect example. He works twelve hour shifts (14hrs with travel time), he is a union steward, he is a golfer, he is a joiner all round and has alot of friends who ask for his time. The way i see it is like this... I can tell him no to golf and beers occasionally with the boys, and have a husband who has little more in his life than work and family, but will he be happy like that? He always says "if the wife isn't happy than nobody is", and I feel that the shoe fits on the other foot as well. If he is forced to stay home he isn't going to be happy, and isn't going to be motivated to do the things that need to be done and isn't going to give his 100% to me and the kids when we do spend time together. I think that his extra activities with his friends help make him the interesting, fun loving guy that he is and if I took those things away I would be comprimising his needs for my own. Men need the same things we do, they need love, respect, and understanding. I would never stop someone I love from persuing his interests, I would not be respectful to his needs as a man needing to spend time with other men doing activities they enjoy and I wouldn't be understanding if I made him spend time with me and the girls and ignore his love for sports, beer and cameraderie.
I have used this policy of allowing him his freedoms providing that the things around the house are kept up. If the grass needs cutting he is there, if the garbage needs to go out he is there, and when the kids and I need sometime he is there and with out resentment, he is there because he wants to be. Ladies don't worry...any man worth his weight no matter how much freedom you give him will always come home. Any man that doesn't know enought to stay home when needed is man that may need to be set straight on priorities at home. Then if he still doesn't learn, then you may need to reconsider if he is worthy of your time.
