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Same thing with me..

aklei090 by aklei090 Walking(June 2006) (rank 500+)

hi, im interested to know what people think of surnames of parent and child being different.my surname is because i married my husband but because we are divorced i am really known by a different last name . with 4 children i feel if i change back to my maiden

name the childrens friend will ask why, mum, step dad and kids all have different name. what should i do. it also upsets my boyfriend when i sign my married name on forms, when ive been divorced for over a year.

I think that you should do what you feel comfortable with. Growing up my mother and father were never married so I had my moms maiden name and when she married my step father, I never took on his last name so between my mom, dad and step dad, I had a different last name. I did get a lot of comments/questions but I don't think it made anyone ever think too hard about it. Don't lose any sleep, just use your gut instinct and do what your comfortable with!

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My partner and I have not yet got round to getting married, although I had always planned to before we had children. As a result, my children have my partners surname but not mine. In this day and age, I don't think this is an unusual situation and I can't say it bothers me (apart from the fact that I'm not too fond of his surname!). When we do get married, I'm not sure I will change my name. I haven't yet decided.

I would agree that you should go with what you are comfortable with. OK, you have an additional name in the mix, but I don't think it should be a big deal to others if you decide to revert back to your maiden name. As I said, my kids and I have different names anyway, and I haven't yet heard any comments about that (oldest is now 2).



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