|
This site gets better with user participation. Please participate... Some of the main things you can do is rate this advice, add comments to this advice, add links to and from this advice, and/or write your own advice.
ADVICE RATING |
    4.92 (Highly recommend) from 78 votes (3136 Visits) |
|
|
Man That Is One Ugly baby |
 |
by OzBinky (February 2007) (rank 13th) |
|
Children can be cruel sometimes with their taunting, name calling and sometimes honesty. It can also be caused by them echoing their parents - repeating what mum or dad has just said. So who is at fault? Mum, dad or child? If I had to point the finger I would be directing it towards the parents. Children listen closely to what their parents say and more often than not, when we think they’re not listening – or - when we think we are talking soft enough, in code enough for them not to hear or understand, they will surprise you and repeat, word to word, what you just said. You can always count on the fact your children will understand the one thing you have taken careful consideration in translating it into something inaudible.
Today while I was out with my Mum, I had such an eventful day, I was standing in line at the checkout and overheard a woman tell her partner that the baby in the next line was the ugliest thing she’d ever seen. Her partner responded with, ‘how could you take that out in public?’ Standing along them was their little old boy, about 4 or 5 years of age, listening attentively to what they were saying. Looking over to the mother and child his parents were talking about he walked over to them and said; ‘man, that is one ugly baby’. Well, the look on this woman’s face would have broken even the hardest of hearts.
I don’t think anyone if that line knew what to say. The faces on each of us must have been enough of an idea what we were all thinking mind you and these parents looked as shocked as we did. Their reaction mind you shocked me more than the actual comment. The boy’s mother grabbed the child’s arm and dragged him away with a swift slap to the backside. The child was being punished for what his parents had said. My jaw dropped. I could not believe that this woman had done that. She didn’t explain to her son what he had said wrong nor did she consider the fact she was the one that incited this comment in the first place.
What do parents expect from their children? Gone are the days when children were seen and not heard and gone are the days when children only spoke when they were spoken to.
If you don’t want something repeated then don’t say it in front of your children or don’t say it at all. It is not up to them to consider what is and is not acceptable to repeat and nor do they have this ability at this age, well most don’t anyway. If you don’t want to raise a rude and obnoxious child, do not behave in this manner as your children will ape not just the good things about you -but also the bad.
If you do say something that is repeated by your little one, don’t just go off at them and reprimand him or her, explain what they said was wrong; tell them that you had no right in saying it and admit that you were in the wrong, that you were out of line and that you do not want them to be like that. Explain how these comments can hurt the feelings of others and apologise to the other person who was offended in the first place.
Children are not scapegoats and should not be used as such. Be accountable for your own actions and don’t allow your child to take the blame for your own thoughtlessness.
Cheers
OB
|
|
|
Any contributed content above is the subjective opinion of that member or external author, and not of Minti.com Pty Ltd. If you are searching for health related advice we strongly suggest you seek professional medical support. View our Terms of Service for more details.
|
|
|
 |
ADVICE RATING |
    4.92 (Highly recommend) from 78 votes |
|
Report |
 |
Thankyou for your vote (you can change your vote at any time). Please leave some helpful comments about this advice using the box below.
|

 |
|
 | |
|
|
Re: Man That Is One Ugly baby
|
 |
 |
 |
 |
 |
|
 |
 |
|
 | |
|
|
Re: Man That Is One Ugly baby
|
 |
 |
 |
 |
 |
|
 |
 |
|
 | |
|
|
Re: Man That Is One Ugly baby
|
 |
 |
 |
 |
 |
|
 |
 |
|
 | |
|
|
I thought this may also be appropriate.
If children live with criticism,
They learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility,
They learn to fight.
If children live with ridicule,
They learn to be shy.
If children live with shame,
They learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement,
They learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance,
They learn to be patient.
If children live with praise,
They learn to appreciate.
If children live with acceptance,
They learn to love.
If children live with approval,
They learn to like themselves.
If children live with honesty,
They learn truthfulness.
If children live with security,
They learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children live with friendliness,
They learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
|
 |
 |
 |
 |
 |
|
 |
Related keywords: acceptable, accountable, anyway, ape, apologise, attentively, baby, behave, blame, careful, checkout, cheers, comment, consideration, cruel, dad, didn, don, dragged, echoing, expect, explain, finger, grabbed, hardest, hearts, hurt, incited, jaw, listen, listening, obnoxious, offended, overheard, parents, punished, repeat, repeated, responded, rude, scapegoats, shocked, slap, swift, taunting, thoughtlessness, translating, ugliest, ugly, walked | |  | | | Related TagsAddacceptable, accountable, anyway, ape, apologise, attentively, baby, behave, blame, careful, checkout, cheers, comment, consideration, cruel, dad, didn, don, dragged, echoing, expect, explain, finger, grabbed, hardest, hearts, hurt, incited, jaw, listen, listening, obnoxious, offended, overheard, parents, punished, repeat, repeated, responded, rude, scapegoats, shocked, slap, swift, taunting, thoughtlessness, translating, ugliest, ugly, walkedBookmarksNo bookmarks found | | | | |
|
|