I really wanted to write a little about children and their sexual behaviour... How it is just as important as kids learning about other things...Children need to be able to feel that thier private parts of there bodies are good...They feel their arms and legs are great so this is also important for their sexual parts too...All kids need to be able to feel good about being a boy or a girl...If parents talk to kids about their bodies and sexual feelings and behaviour, they learn its okay to talk about these sorts of things with their parents...One of the ways to help your child sort their values in their mind is to help them to be able to come and talk to you freely...

There are alot of things that influence a childs sexual behaviour...There is the Parents, How a parent responds to childrens sexual behaviour plays a big roll in this and the way you are about it is also influenced by the way your parents were about it...How you feel can help your child feel good, normal and healthy OR ashamed, bad and guilty just by how you respond to them either in your actions or by what you say....

Television, All kids take note of what they hear read and see... Sometimes they see things that they are too young to understand, Sometimes they will see things that also make them feel this way...There are alot of things on tv about sex even on shows like Home and Away and Neighbours, Even in the newspaper or  magazines, Children learn what in means to be a man or a woman or how each sex acts from these avenues also..How adults treat each other, You as a parent are your childrens FIRST teachers, They watch how you treat and act with other adults the respect you show for the opposite sex, do you run yourself down or make fun of the opposite sex? What you as the first teacher can teach your child to maybe be afraid of the opposite sex or even think they are lessor person because they are male/ female... 

Childrens services and schools...Most all schools teach kids about sex and sexuality they also do something that I find is a really important they teach them the CORRECT words for their body parts, Children should learn they have a penis or a vagina and these words should be used,(Just a personal note here if your children learn pet names or nik names for these and something does go worng it makes the job of the police harder. I know this from personal experience)  The school programs also teach kids where to go and who to talk to if they are touched in ways that are not OK....

Children from birth have sexual feelings...Girls and boys can get good feelings from touching their private parts and little boys can also get erections...Here are some guildlines on what is classed as normal sexual behaviours from different age brakets...

In the before schooling years babies do not usually play with  their genitals until they are nearing one as they are still looking at their hands and their feet...little kids will touch their genitals because it does feel good or even comforts them... It is a natural curiousity for a child around one to play with their private parts when thier nappy is off, lets face it they will even play in their poo if you give them half a chance hehe...Until a child is around three they do not quiet understand that their body parts are permanent...so a boy if raised by a single mum with no other men around could have thoughts that their penis might fall off or the same for a little girl raised by a man with no other women might think she will grow one or even worry becuase she doesnt have one... It is normal for a child before they go to school to be a nature child...As I am writing this my two year old and nearly four year old are running around naked as they do regularly...Modesty at this age is not a big thing to kids...Some children at this age might take an interest in other kids bodies... they may play doctors and nurses by looking an touching...this is normal...They also might like to touch mum or dads body in the shower or just to look and stare... By the time most kids are three children can tell people "I am a Boy" or "I am a Girl" By the age of four kids are interested in what goes on in the toilet and make jokes about pee pee and poo poo or might use swear words to discribe this......

By the time kids reach primary school and through the early years they usually know that looking at each others bodies and masturbation is a private thing BUT in saying that there could be still a curiosity in sex play or looking especially around the school toilets...This does not mean children are pervs they are just curious...Your kids will start hearing about intercourse and will use swear words to desribe it around their friends... Around the middle of primary school maybe later kids will get some modesty and are likely to be embarrassed about nudity..they might even start to cover up in front of their parents... Sex talk and jokes also come into the picture in the mid years in primary school... there still is sex play games like kissing games or games pretending about being married...eg the  old school teasing song Jack and Jill sitting in the tree k-i-s-s-i-n-g first comes love then comes marriage then comes the baby in the baby carriage.... stuff like that..

This subject I think is to comlex to condense into one article so to read the second part of this please go here...To be continued...

Have a great day
Cheers
Angie